Advice on my school life

[Xoxoxo]

Holaaaaaa!!!!

I have a question, I actually needed advice on this particular thing since it’s very important to me, so answer sincerely I need great advices from you guys since you’re older and mature.

I had beef with someone whom I thought was my friend. Basically i voiced my opinion to her & this other classmate because I felt I did too much work compared to them, but they all saw it as an attack. I thought that my friend would understand where I was coming from but she low-key dragged me anyhowwww this caused an awful riff on our friendship, she was my soulmate and our friendship was precious (even though she was a toxic person who talked behind everyone’s and their mama’s back).

So because off that, I had a whole beef with my friend group. On one hand I am relieved since it was so toxic and everybody didn’t like each other, but on the other hand I miss them alot and had a lot off fun with them at school.

I don’t know how to move on from them, I want to definitely move on, but it’s hard since I am their main topic they talk about and I have a feeling nasty rumours are made about me since other people from other classes are paying attention to me right now. I don’t feel comfortable at school and I already have other issues I want to work on, any advice is appreciated on how I can handle this and how I could move on from my friendship & how to avoid them

 

[Xoxoxo]

- Don’t make fun off me,
- No this is not high school drama, I am in college,
- Yes, I am a very emotional person so this is doing something to me thank you very much!

 

[Xoxoxo]

Holaaaaaa!!!!

I have a question, I actually needed advice on this particular thing since it’s very important to me, so answer sincerely I need great advices from you guys since you’re older and mature.

I had beef with someone whom I thought was my friend. Basically i voiced my opinion to her & this other classmate because I felt I did too much work compared to them, but they all saw it as an attack. I thought that my friend would understand where I was coming from but she low-key dragged me anyhowwww this caused an awful riff on our friendship, she was my soulmate and our friendship was precious (even though she was a toxic person who talked behind everyone’s and their mama’s back).

So because off that, I had a whole beef with my friend group. On one hand I am relieved since it was so toxic and everybody didn’t like each other, but on the other hand I miss them alot and had a lot off fun with them at school.

I don’t know how to move on from them, I want to definitely move on, but it’s hard since I am their main topic they talk about and I have a feeling nasty rumours are made about me since other people from other classes are paying attention to me right now. I don’t feel comfortable at school and I already have other issues I want to work on, any advice is appreciated on how I can handle this and how I could move on from my friendship & how to avoid them

I feel so lonely too, I don’t have a “group” to hang out with since everybody is already close I was too dumb to stick to 1 person only

 

[Lostbox]

I feel so lonely too, I don’t have a “group” to hang out with since everybody is already close I was too dumb to stick to 1 person only

This in a great opportunities to learn how to make new friends. Maybe start a simple conversation with peer that you might be interested in talking to. It help you make friends outside of college in other environments.

If making Friends in college is difficult. There tons of places for you to socialise as make friends and have people to look forward to meeting after college

I wouldn't recommend you keep toxic in you life. Your still young. You have plenty of time to make mistakes

 

[Hodan from HR]

The good news is there will be a new victim next month. You just have to wait for this to pass and they'll be cool with you again.

Also, you can try talking to that one person who is most reasonable with some naxaris in the group and explain your side. You have to show (at least pretend) some vulnerability. I know it is unfair since you were wronged here. You dont do this because you want them to accept you back but because you deserve a safe peaceful study environment where no one is defaming your character.



Also what @Lostbox said. You don't need toxic friends, just get them off your back then do you.

 

[reer]

give them a hooyo style beating.

 

[Awad]

Why are you talking to people in college? L

 

[GuanYu]

First, Thank Allah nothing worse happened
Second, Collect your thoughts, look yourself in the mirror
Thirdly, Say These Biatches ain't shit
Fourthly, Say you made the right decision
Fithly, Stay away from them, until they apologise for the transgression
Sixthly, If that ain't happening, Sit next to people you'd get along with
Seventhly, don't be afraid of saying hello to new people, or being said hello to

 

[Oday-yar]

Here is something I wish I was told when I was your age. In life, no on cares about you so focus on yourself(your health, your relationship with Allah), your family, and your wealth. End any relationship that doesn't contribute to any of the things I mentioned. These are the only things that will matter in 5, 10, 20 and 30 years from now. Last but not least, you'll have to learn to use your mind more and your emotions less. I can recommend books if you are interested.

 

[Taij4an]

Why are you talking to people in college? L

I would say u are joking rn but in all seriousness I didnt talk to anyone after secondary school

 

[niggaibnh]

Holaaaaaa!!!!

I have a question, I actually needed advice on this particular thing since it’s very important to me, so answer sincerely I need great advices from you guys since you’re older and mature.

I had beef with someone whom I thought was my friend. Basically i voiced my opinion to her & this other classmate because I felt I did too much work compared to them, but they all saw it as an attack. I thought that my friend would understand where I was coming from but she low-key dragged me anyhowwww this caused an awful riff on our friendship, she was my soulmate and our friendship was precious (even though she was a toxic person who talked behind everyone’s and their mama’s back).

So because off that, I had a whole beef with my friend group. On one hand I am relieved since it was so toxic and everybody didn’t like each other, but on the other hand I miss them alot and had a lot off fun with them at school.

I don’t know how to move on from them, I want to definitely move on, but it’s hard since I am their main topic they talk about and I have a feeling nasty rumours are made about me since other people from other classes are paying attention to me right now. I don’t feel comfortable at school and I already have other issues I want to work on, any advice is appreciated on how I can handle this and how I could move on from my friendship & how to avoid them

" since it was so toxic and everybody didn’t like each other"

-leave them
-make new friend (choose wisely)
-block them in social media
-ignore the rumours

and the rest is in allah plan but i know you're gonna be good and get the best grade AMEEN

 

[Awad]

I would say u are joking rn but in all seriousness I didnt talk to anyone after secondary school

I only hang out with my friends at the masjid or gym. There's genuinely 0 reason to have social problems in the classroom during university, just take your notes and get out.

 

[Taij4an]

I only hang out with my friends at the masjid or gym. There's genuinely 0 reason to have social problems in the classroom during university, just take your notes and get out.

yep

 

[NordicSomali]

Are you Asian?

 

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

Holaaaaaa!!!!

I have a question, I actually needed advice on this particular thing since it’s very important to me, so answer sincerely I need great advices from you guys since you’re older and mature.

I had beef with someone whom I thought was my friend. Basically i voiced my opinion to her & this other classmate because I felt I did too much work compared to them, but they all saw it as an attack. I thought that my friend would understand where I was coming from but she low-key dragged me anyhowwww this caused an awful riff on our friendship, she was my soulmate and our friendship was precious (even though she was a toxic person who talked behind everyone’s and their mama’s back).

So because off that, I had a whole beef with my friend group. On one hand I am relieved since it was so toxic and everybody didn’t like each other, but on the other hand I miss them alot and had a lot off fun with them at school.

I don’t know how to move on from them, I want to definitely move on, but it’s hard since I am their main topic they talk about and I have a feeling nasty rumours are made about me since other people from other classes are paying attention to me right now. I don’t feel comfortable at school and I already have other issues I want to work on, any advice is appreciated on how I can handle this and how I could move on from my friendship & how to avoid them

I am sorry you're going through this! Big hug to you!

Make a list of the friendship red flags of each person for yourself, so that you can see their flaws clearly. You said one of them was a gossip and also toxic, I can assume that she also gossiped about you.

I would say;

1. Don't pay attention to them but try not to look awkward or submissive around them; this will only embolden them further.
2. Read your adkaar and find new extracurricular activities, you will make new acquaintances and friends soon enough.


It will not be easy to start, but you will get past this and look back with so much relief. This is a GIFT!

Finally, you have your SSPOT fam if you need a chat/bored.

 

[Prince of HS]

Holaaaaaa!!!!

I have a question, I actually needed advice on this particular thing since it’s very important to me, so answer sincerely I need great advices from you guys since you’re older and mature.

I had beef with someone whom I thought was my friend. Basically i voiced my opinion to her & this other classmate because I felt I did too much work compared to them, but they all saw it as an attack. I thought that my friend would understand where I was coming from but she low-key dragged me anyhowwww this caused an awful riff on our friendship, she was my soulmate and our friendship was precious (even though she was a toxic person who talked behind everyone’s and their mama’s back).

So because off that, I had a whole beef with my friend group. On one hand I am relieved since it was so toxic and everybody didn’t like each other, but on the other hand I miss them alot and had a lot off fun with them at school.

I don’t know how to move on from them, I want to definitely move on, but it’s hard since I am their main topic they talk about and I have a feeling nasty rumours are made about me since other people from other classes are paying attention to me right now. I don’t feel comfortable at school and I already have other issues I want to work on, any advice is appreciated on how I can handle this and how I could move on from my friendship & how to avoid them

good advice and tip I can give you for future friends and acquaintances are if someone speaks trash about everyone behind their back especially the other friends in your circle, most likely they do it about you too.

 

[AllStarSaciid]

Holaaaaaa!!!!

I have a question, I actually needed advice on this particular thing since it’s very important to me, so answer sincerely I need great advices from you guys since you’re older and mature.

I had beef with someone whom I thought was my friend. Basically i voiced my opinion to her & this other classmate because I felt I did too much work compared to them, but they all saw it as an attack. I thought that my friend would understand where I was coming from but she low-key dragged me anyhowwww this caused an awful riff on our friendship, she was my soulmate and our friendship was precious (even though she was a toxic person who talked behind everyone’s and their mama’s back).

So because off that, I had a whole beef with my friend group. On one hand I am relieved since it was so toxic and everybody didn’t like each other, but on the other hand I miss them alot and had a lot off fun with them at school.

I don’t know how to move on from them, I want to definitely move on, but it’s hard since I am their main topic they talk about and I have a feeling nasty rumours are made about me since other people from other classes are paying attention to me right now. I don’t feel comfortable at school and I already have other issues I want to work on, any advice is appreciated on how I can handle this and how I could move on from my friendship & how to avoid them

Qof shantaada faro kaa celinweeso . Sharci kaama celinaayo

 

[Qahwe]

Cut them off, and find good people (especially hardworking people, be around people that you aspire to be).

 

[AllStarSaciid]

Holaaaaaa!!!!

I have a question, I actually needed advice on this particular thing since it’s very important to me, so answer sincerely I need great advices from you guys since you’re older and mature.

I had beef with someone whom I thought was my friend. Basically i voiced my opinion to her & this other classmate because I felt I did too much work compared to them, but they all saw it as an attack. I thought that my friend would understand where I was coming from but she low-key dragged me anyhowwww this caused an awful riff on our friendship, she was my soulmate and our friendship was precious (even though she was a toxic person who talked behind everyone’s and their mama’s back).

So because off that, I had a whole beef with my friend group. On one hand I am relieved since it was so toxic and everybody didn’t like each other, but on the other hand I miss them alot and had a lot off fun with them at school.

I don’t know how to move on from them, I want to definitely move on, but it’s hard since I am their main topic they talk about and I have a feeling nasty rumours are made about me since other people from other classes are paying attention to me right now. I don’t feel comfortable at school and I already have other issues I want to work on, any advice is appreciated on how I can handle this and how I could move on from my friendship & how to avoid them

I’m not accusing u of anything but if there are drugs involved in your friend group then u need to bounce. Like for real. Get out.

if no drugs then it can’t be that serious.

 

[truenature]

If your friend talks behind other peoples backs to you then she probably talks about you too. Surround yourself with good Muslims that will always remind you of Allah SWT and not gossip and backbite 24/7. I cut off all toxic friends, it’s a waste of time and energy.