A Somali Adeer regrets having boys.

[Gibiin-Udug]

Hes in his 80s and has 9 sons, no daughter. His sons don't take care of him. His wife died.

I know Somali men get happy when they get happy but when they get older they are abandoned.


Daughters are better.

 

[Guled111]

Hes in his 80s and has 9 sons, no daughter. His sons don't take care of him. His wife died.

I know Somali men get happy when they get happy but when they get older they are abandoned.


Daughters are better.

How old are u because I have a feeling u are in your late twenties if u don't mind.

 

[RichEnoughForGucci]

My aabo is blessed with 5 daughters. Alhamdullilah.

 

[Kingjames]

Hes in his 80s and has 9 sons, no daughter. His sons don't take care of him. His wife died.

I know Somali men get happy when they get happy but when they get older they are abandoned.


Daughters are better.

What would you consider “taking care” of your parents?

Providing?
Parents living with you?

 

[Gibiin-Udug]

What would you consider “taking care” of your parents?

Providing?
Parents living with you?

Parents living with you, my grandma lives with my mom. Taking care of them, cooking for them, taking them to trips, taking them to their doctor's appointments. Taking them out to eat. I always take my grandma to brunch every Saturday morning.

 

[Jake from State Farm]

I honeslty haven’t really thought if it too be honest.

If my mom and pops want to live with me than he can live with me. But my dad wants to retire in Mogadishu and has been trying to convince my mother as well.

Idk how that’s going to work. Cause idk if my ass gonna go to Mogadishu.

 

[Fels]

When you only have one sibling
And is a girl

 

[VixR]

Nah, that doesn’t sound right. How do all 9 forsake him? That tells you there wasn’t 1 among them who cared enough. I have to suspect if he had daughters, it would’ve been the same. It’s like all he had them for was for his care, and he didn’t get it.

I had a pt who had major surgery and no one was in sight. He started talking about how his kids were all of ten minutes away and none of them had came or so much as called to see how he was doing, even though he’d informed them. Sure enough as the shift wore on, he was getting into his emotions and he TMI told me x,y and z ways he wasn’t a good father. Some ppl find it in themselves to have a shred of regard for their parents in spite of everything in their old age , but most of the time it really depends on how much you put into them

 

[Gibiin-Udug]

Nah, that doesn’t sound right. How do all 9 forsake him? That tells you there wasn’t 1 among them who cared enough. I have to suspect if he had daughters, it would’ve been the same. It’s like all he had them for was for his care, and he didn’t get it.

I had a pt who had major surgery and no one was in sight. He started talking about how his kids were all of ten minutes away and none of them had came or so much as called to see how he was doing, even though he’d informed them. Sure enough as the shift wore on, he was getting into his emotions and he TMI told me x,y and z ways he wasn’t a good father. Some ppl find it in themselves to have a shred of regard for their parents in spite of everything in their old age , but most of the time it really depends on how much you put into them

Daughters and sons are not the same, elders need attention like toddlers, sons won't give him the proper attention he needs, yes they might take care of him but elders need someone to talk to. It's not the same, I hate the fact that you're rationalizing this, If he had daughters he would be the richest man in the world. Only the blessed get blessed with daughters.

 

[VixR]

@Reiko do you think your brothers would abandon your father if there weren’t any girls in the family? This is just not true. It’s not gender. It’s character and the kind of relationship they have.

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[Geeljire lotus]

This is bullshit I would take care of my parents so I still only want sons

 

[AussieHustler]

Reiko

I know of an old Somali guy who abandoned his 3 boys and their mother when they were children, he came back to their lives when they finished university and got jobs. They all told him not to bother them again. Everyone calls them caasi. We culturally reward deadbeat dads because they were only sperm donors.

As for ageing parents, I wished we Aussies had culturally appropriate Somali nursing homes like in Minnesota. A couple working for their young family can’t look after 2 sets of grandparents. Let their parents have fun with other old Somalis in a Somali nursing home.

 

[Balqisa]

I thought I replied to this thread . Why'd it get deleted?

 

[Gooney112]

Reiko

I know of an old Somali guy who abandoned his 3 boys and their mother when they were children, he came back to their lives when they finished university and got jobs. They all told him not to bother them again. Everyone calls them caasi. We culturally reward deadbeat dads because they were only sperm donors.

As for ageing parents, I wished we Aussies had culturally appropriate Somali nursing homes like in Minnesota. A couple working for their young family can’t look after 2 sets of grandparents. Let their parents have fun with other old Somalis in a Somali nursing home.

You dont correct wrong with wrong. My das wasnt the greatest dad and now that he is getting older. I will do what I can for him. Im not gonna score points. He wasnt there for his dad and my grandpa wasnt there for his dad. Someone has to break the cycle. I still dont see how 9 sons can abondon a dad. Story sounds bullsh1t

 

[SomaliSavage0]

My aabo is blessed with 5 daughters. Alhamdullilah.

Poor him he has to deal with a lot pussy control and especially being from uk

 

[bluebird]

Nah, that doesn’t sound right. How do all 9 forsake him? That tells you there wasn’t 1 among them who cared enough. I have to suspect if he had daughters, it would’ve been the same. It’s like all he had them for was for his care, and he didn’t get it.

I had a pt who had major surgery and no one was in sight. He started talking about how his kids were all of ten minutes away and none of them had came or so much as called to see how he was doing, even though he’d informed them. Sure enough as the shift wore on, he was getting into his emotions and he TMI told me x,y and z ways he wasn’t a good father. Some ppl find it in themselves to have a shred of regard for their parents in spite of everything in their old age , but most of the time it really depends on how much you put into them

I doubt she means in a 100 percent way, just more like men tend to be more distant from their parents after getting married. Girls have more compassion naturally and tend to check up on their family and ask what they need, etc. Its pretty consistent with my family as well

 

[World]

It’s not like he had a choice in choosing the gender of his children so what exactly is there to regret about?

9 sons and not one daughter? I’m inclined to believe you made the story up.

 

[Pureblood]

When you only have one sibling
And is a girl
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What kind of Somali family has less than 3 kids. If it ain’t 6 or up you not Somali enough

 

[Gambar]

If you raise your sons like duuli that is what happens.

 

[Fels]

What kind of Somali family has less than 3 kids. If it ain’t 6 or up you not Somali enough

I have a lot of cousins
Does that make me somali enough