A question for the brothers..

[Journey.]

Hire help but she must cook the soul food for u. Otherwise waa qaasaaro

Why is that?

 

[Journey.]

I don't see the perks of being with a multimillionaire if you still have to toil away with no help. In fact, the chores will be worse as he'll want to have a mansion/villa. That's double the work of that of a humble small apartment.

Might as well leave the greedy waste of a man. Your life isn't that much better if not probably worse than Farxiyo down the road who saves her ayuuto money to go on holidays and buy dahab.

Yes. I can't think of any other reason to not hire help if you have the means other than xaasidnimo. I have to suffer and go to work so you can't be free doing nothing and chilling at home.

 

[Odious Delirium]

Lool you're not allowed to make them live together. Each wife has a seperate life, so I don't know what polygamy has to do with helping your wife.

That sounds like a silly teenage boys fantasy... Oh but you probably are. How miskeen hdhudhdhdhd lol.

Not really you just can't have 3somes basically you can't bed more than 1 wife at a time but they can all live in the same house with the own bedrooms.

What you doing here anyways this is a question for the bros lol.

 

[Journey.]

Yes, unless you mean genuinely rich ($3M+) with a paid off home.

But if you're talking comfortable as in pulling a very good salary, then absolutely I expect her to fulfil her part. I don't see how that's an issue when she doesn't have to work or worry about money. What would she be doing?

No, she can’t be lazy and do nothing at home whilst I’m working even if I’m rich. I won’t have a wife who just stays at home watching Netflix and isn’t productive. I myself work a 9-5, and clean my apartment and cook and still have plenty of time.

What's wrong with your wife living good and comfortably? Isn't that something to take pride in?

 

[Angelina]

Not really you just can't have 3somes basically you can't bed more than 1 wife at a time but they can all live in the same house with the own bedrooms.

What you doing here anyways this is a question for the bros lol.

No, you cannot. Women have a right to separate accommodation.

 

[World]

What's wrong with your wife living good and comfortably? Isn't that something to take pride in?

Why would I take pride in my wife being a lazy unproductive spoiled brat that doesn’t do anything productive? What’s next? Hire a woman to do the cooking? I’d divorce my wife and marry the chef in that case.

 

[Journey.]

Why would I take pride in my wife being a lazy unproductive spoiled brat that doesn’t do anything productive? What’s next? Hire a woman to do the cooking? I’d divorce my wife and marry the chef in that case.

So much hate for this wife (I'm assuming) you don't have. Nobody said she would be lazy or spoilt (or brattish), this came from yourself.

 

[Angelina]

Yes. I can't think of any other reason to not hire help if you have the means other than xaasidnimo. I have to suffer and go to work so you can't be free doing nothing and chilling at home.

Very feminine energy. Back home and ME men that can afford it usually get a helper for their wives. Its petty tbh.

They don't realise that this xaasidnimo is just them shooting themselves on the foot. Most rich men prefer help for their wives because that means the wife has more time to go the gym especially after having a baby, beautifying themselves and the wives of the wealthy tend to look younger and well rested as they're not worrying about house chores. Also, a lot of married men complain about their wives neglecting them and themselves ect and having help deals with that issue.

 

[reer]

Having help in the UK, unless you're earning a certain amount isn't possible, but you can get cleaners like 3 times in the week for cheap.

If you have kids, she can spend most times actually playing with them and facilitating their learning, instead of leaving them to their devises constantly cooking and cleaning.

I'd actually try and make sure my child knew at least 3 languages before 5, use different learning techniques so that by the time they're in grade 1, they're well above average ect. Yh, i'd probably end up being like those crazy Asian tiger mums loooool. InshaAllah.

somali english arabic. your future kids probably not need to learn another language. raising ciyaal multilingual is good for their mental development.

 

[Angelina]

Why would I take pride in my wife being a lazy unproductive spoiled brat that doesn’t do anything productive? What’s next? Hire a woman to do the cooking? I’d divorce my wife and marry the chef in that case.

Because rich men tend to want a well rested woman who is able to hit the gym and look young for age instead of smelling of suugo and toiling despite running around after toddlers as well.

Also, this tit for tat pettiness is rather feminine. You honestly don't get that back home and other Muslim countries. Rich/well off men do not give a shit as long as the house is clean and the wife is looking pretty and in a good mood.

 

[reer]

Very feminine energy. Back home and ME men that can afford it usually get a helper for their wives. Its petty tbh.

They don't realise that this xaasidnimo is just them shooting themselves on the foot. Most rich men prefer help for their wives because that means the wife has more time to go the gym especially after having a baby, beautifying themselves and the wives of the wealthy tend to look younger and well rested as they're not worrying about house chores. Also, a lot of married men complain about their wives neglecting them and themselves ect and having help deals with that issue.

yes. rich faraxs in eastern countries when they are polygamous their wives have easy life.

 

[Nilotic]

When I went to Juba and saw that my 1st cousin had three beautiful wives, I (for like a minute) thought that it could be really neat if I did that, until reality set in.

 

[Odious Delirium]

No, you cannot. Women have a right to separate accommodation.

A room within which she has absolute privacy to fulfil her need is considered separate accommodations ie a bedroom.

Yes women have a right to ask for anything aslong as it's Islamic like completely separate accommodations but fulfilling any more than the essential which is a bedroom in this case isn't necessary it's up to him at that point.

If you have a problem just don't marry someone like that or try be less disagreeable.

 

[Journey.]

Very feminine energy. Back home and ME men that can afford it usually get a helper for their wives. Its petty tbh.

They don't realise that this xaasidnimo is just them shooting themselves on the foot. Most rich men prefer help for their wives because that means the wife has more time to go the gym especially after having a baby, beautifying themselves and the wives of the wealthy tend to look younger and well rested as they're not worrying about house chores. Also, a lot of married men complain about their wives neglecting them and themselves ect and having help deals with that issue.

True, it's definitely the norm. I actually made this thread because i came across someone (on this forum) saying even if they moved back home where maids are common place they wouldn't get their wife one because they don't want her to be lazy. She needs to work hard etc.. I was surprised that some people think this way. Is your wife your enemy?

 

[reer]

When I went to Juba and saw that my 1st cousin had three beautiful wives, I (for like a minute) thought that it could be really neat if I did that, until reality set in.

the ultimate 3rd world babe magnet.

 

[World]

So much hate for this wife (I'm assuming) you don't have. Nobody said she would be lazy or spoilt (or brattish), this came from yourself.

I’m sorry but if I have another woman in my house cooking and cleaning for me, don’t be surprised that I fall in love with her especially if she is young. She’ll be feeding me my favourite meals whilst my so called wife is watching netflix and being a lazy unproductive Karen.

 

[World]

Because rich men tend to want a well rested woman who is able to hit the gym and look young for age instead of smelling of suugo and toiling despite running around after toddlers as well.

Also, this tit for tat pettiness is rather feminine. You honestly don't get that back home and other Muslim countries. Rich/well off men do not give a shit as long as the house is clean and the wife is looking pretty and in a good mood.

Gym kulaha, a woman who can’t even cook and clean is going to be going gym? She’ll be snacking all day watching Netflix being fat. All those rich gulf women are fat, lazy, entitled and they raise unproductive brat children that go to other countries to do drugs, alcohol, etc. I have met dozens of them in London.

 

[Angelina]

A room within which she has absolute privacy to fulfil her need is considered separate accommodations ie a bedroom.

Yes women have a right to ask for anything aslong as it's Islamic like completely separate accommodations but fulfilling any more than the essential which is a bedroom in this case isn't necessary it's up to him at that point.

If you have a problem just don't marry someone like that or try be less disagreeable.

No offence, but what is wrong with you? Women are already jealous, what makes you think it is Islamically acceptable to make two women live under the same roof? Are you slow?

A room is not enough. Seperate kitchen, bathroom, living area. It is an injustice making them live together. You can't even make your wife live with her parents let alone a co-wife loool.

The wife has the right to live in separate accommodation with her husband and children, and not to share it with anyone, whether it is a father, a mother or a relative.

This is the view of most of the Hanafi, Shaafa’i and Hanbali fuqaha’. She also has the right to refuse to live with his father, mother and siblings.

https://www.google.com/amp/s/islamqa.info/amp/en/answers/94965

First, as a wife, you are entitled to have a separate accommodation for your own, even if it is rented. A wife is not obliged to live with her in-laws as per the Islamic Sharee'ah. In fact, living with the husband’s parents in the same house often incurs problems; therefore, husbands should pay attention to that issue. Please, refer to Fatwa

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Assalaamu alaykum wa rahmatullaahi wa barakaatuhu Shaykh I have a very important question regarding polygamy I have spoken to my wife about marrying another wife she is not happy but seems to have accepted it so I am going to need to find out a few things regarding spending and housing before...

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Your wife is not obliged to live with either her relatives or yours. The Muslim wife has a right to an independent accommodation. If she claims her right and requests a separate accommodation, you are obliged to fulfill her right over you according to her status and your ability. You are not required to own the accommodation; you may rent it.

 

[Bundasliga]

Very feminine energy. Back home and ME men that can afford it usually get a helper for their wives. Its petty tbh.

They don't realise that this xaasidnimo is just them shooting themselves on the foot. Most rich men prefer help for their wives because that means the wife has more time to go the gym especially after having a baby, beautifying themselves and the wives of the wealthy tend to look younger and well rested as they're not worrying about house chores. Also, a lot of married men complain about their wives neglecting them and themselves ect and having help deals with that issue.

Most of us are western raised, the idea of a maid like backhome or in ME is still surreal, even though it always existed & is halal .

I couldn't rely on a maid ,it would make me feel lazy & weird ,also the treatment of some maids is concerning, which also contributes to our overall view on maids.

Besides that maids would actually save alot of marriages here in the west ,they would make everything easier & help alot of families.

 

[World]

Do you even know what the word 'accomadation' means? No offence, but what is wrong with you? Women are already jealous, what makes you think it is Islamically acceptable to make two women live under the same roof? Are you slow?

A room is not enough. Seperate kitchen, bathroom, living area. It is an injustice making them live together. You can't even make your wife live with her parents let alone a co-wife loool.

The wife has the right to live in separate accommodation with her husband and children, and not to share it with anyone, whether it is a father, a mother or a relative.

This is the view of most of the Hanafi, Shaafa’i and Hanbali fuqaha’. She also has the right to refuse to live with his father, mother and siblings.

https://www.google.com/amp/s/islamqa.info/amp/en/answers/94965

First, as a wife, you are entitled to have a separate accommodation for your own, even if it is rented. A wife is not obliged to live with her in-laws as per the Islamic Sharee'ah. In fact, living with the husband’s parents in the same house often incurs problems; therefore, husbands should pay attention to that issue. Please, refer to Fatwa

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Providing accommodation for first and second wives

Assalaamu alaykum wa rahmatullaahi wa barakaatuhu Shaykh I have a very important question regarding polygamy I have spoken to my wife about marrying another wife she is not happy but seems to have accepted it so I am going to need to find out a few things regarding spending and housing before...

www.google.com

Your wife is not obliged to live with either her relatives or yours. The Muslim wife has a right to an independent accommodation. If she claims her right and requests a separate accommodation, you are obliged to fulfill her right over you according to her status and your ability. You are not required to own the accommodation; you may rent it.

As long as she has her own separate accommodation in the house that comes with bedroom, bathroom, kitchen etc, no problem.

On a three floor house, wifey #1 can live on the third floor, wifey #2 lives on the the second floor, and wifey #3 lives on the ground floor.