Girls, would you consider getting to know a man who was previously married and his kids?
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What if his ex-wife is ajnabi so you won't have to worry about he said, she said bullshit in the community and the calacaal
Aren’t you a divorced man with kids?@AishaBarri is right, nothing is wrong with marrying a divorced man with 2 or 3 kids, you will be in good hands if you become my HennyQueen.
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The question is Is he emotionally availableOk modified version for the girls who said maybe:
What if his ex-wife is ajnabi so you won't have to worry about he said, she said bullshit in the community and the calacaal
This is not about judging single parents. There are plenty of wonderful people who just had bad luck or a test from Allah.
However, it is important to heal fully, focus on good co-parenting and clear boundaries regarding finances and child/care/timetable.
But people who are bitter, aggressive, have no boundaries, have a horrible relationship with the ex, cannot provide etc, etc. have no business trying to get remarried.
He’s been divorced an hour and he’s already on the marketThis is not about judging single parents. There are plenty of wonderful people who just had bad luck or a test from Allah.
However, it is important to heal fully, focus on good co-parenting and clear boundaries regarding finances and child/care/timetable.
But people who are bitter, aggressive, have no boundaries, have a horrible relationship with the ex, cannot provide etc, etc. have no business trying to get remarried.
How can some of these men rush into a 2nd marriage when they haven't even reflected on what went wrong in the first place, take cold showers and find a therapist. Smh
No man would would bring his kids from his previous marriage around the new wife maybe once in a blue moon lol. This is how somalis move.
Some of you speaking like those kids would be around 3 or 4 days of the week lol. And what man doesnt have the decency to cook and clean that 1 time his kids do come to stay.
That doesnt mean i dont spend time with them, it just means i dont bring them around you. Id rather take them to their ayeeyos house and other relatives where they will be at every week. Spend time with them there. You dont have to be involved.That's even worse.
A man who doesn't spend a lot of time with his children should be avoided like COVID-19.
This is a person who cannot be trusted.
That doesnt mean i dont spend time with them, it just means i dont bring them around you. Id rather take them to their ayeeyos house and other relatives where they will be at every week. Spend time with them there. You dont have to be involved.
Always something with you xalimos lol
Ajnabi?? DealbreakerOk modified version for the girls who said maybe:
What if his ex-wife is ajnabi so you won't have to worry about he said, she said bullshit in the community and the calacaal
That's worseOk modified version for the girls who said maybe:
What if his ex-wife is ajnabi so you won't have to worry about he said, she said bullshit in the community and the calacaal
The question is Is he emotionally available
Is he over his past marriage
Or is he damaged if he is it’s not gonna be a healthy relationship
Ajnabi?? Dealbreaker![]()
That's worse