A lot of Somali girls don’t make good friends tbh

I’ve noticed that throughout my life it’s been my Somali friends that have been the least supportive, the most snaky etc. Idk if I just have bad luck or it’s a common thing with Somali girls

I just had to cut off another new Somali “friend” for being a snake. She would never congratulate me for anything, I remember telling her when I got a new job out of school and she said no congratulations no mashallah no nothing she was just like “oh wow”. Like who says that. Meanwhile I congratulated her on her graduation and was supportive to her. She also would flake on plans a lot and was generally a shit friend so I finally blocked her on social media and it feels great ngl. I also had another “friend” who treated her other friends so well, would come through for their birthdays and all that and then treat me like shit. She’s also blocked and cut off

I wish I could have some great friends around me of my culture cause there’s nothing like a friend that fully understands you. But the Somali girls around me are sooo fake. I have better luck with other ethnicities. Not saying that there aren’t snake girls in other ethnicities bc there are. But I’ve been able to find great friends still
 

Boqorada

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I think their mothers always putting them down and comparing them to others daughters took a toll on most of them so they see other Somali girls as competition instead of an ally.
 
I think their mothers always putting them down and comparing them to others daughters took a toll on most of them so they see other Somali girls as competition instead of an ally.
That makes so much sense walahi. I remember in uni getting competitive vibes from these two Somali girls in my classes and it was so weird to me. Cause I saw other ethnicities (Filipinos, Arabs, Indians) linking up from day 1 and supporting each other
 
I think their mothers always putting them down and comparing them to others daughters took a toll on most of them so they see other Somali girls as competition instead of an ally.
I hate when parents compare their kids to other kids and keep on talking about how they are better bla. bla. bla... I have been nothing but ambitious my whole life but still I had to hear how other women's sons are better than me because I couldn't or didn't wanted to give my mom extra cash as she wishes when she asks me..

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That makes so much sense walahi. I remember in uni getting competitive vibes from these two Somali girls in my classes and it was so weird to me. Cause I saw other ethnicities (Filipinos, Arabs, Indians) linking up from day 1 and supporting each other
You want to understand a group of people. Look at their society. Look at Somalia and what makes you think majority of Somalis are off sound mind and have togetherness
 
Friendships are some of the hardest relationships.

Unlike relationships with family and spouses, they are hard to define, take up so much time and energy, and at times you wonder if they are even worth the effort.

That said, I have a couple of Somali friends who are real standup people and have come through for me many times.
 

SonOfMaverick

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You want to understand a group of people. Look at their society. Look at Somalia and what makes you think majority of Somalis are off sound mind and have togetherness
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Our society is dysfunctional, because Somalis are toxic and dysfunctional people and there is no effort to change.
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On social media it does seem like Somali women support each other but according to you, it looks like this doesn't translate to real life. I don't think Somali guys have this problem from my experience.
 

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Hani Bee

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I don’t know man my mom drilled in my head that there was no such thing as friends growing up. So I always just used people to my benefit.
 

Hani Bee

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You just like me fr, I’m starting to feel this way about relationships with girls too. Love is overrated
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I didn’t say all of that.

I was speaking in past tense. As children of immigrants, we are naturally (or maybe conditioned socially) to be competitive with “friends”. But since we are taught to aspire to marriage, we become “pick me’s”. Therefore things that we can tolerate in the opposite sex, we can’t tolerate in our friends. We are less forgiving of our friends and easily irritated by them. You have to unlearn a lot to be able to look at humans the same again. Self love is key. Because you have a toxic mindset, you probably gravitate towards toxic people. And then wonder why you’re always feeling bad. The minute you create boundaries and make new friends, the less you’ll want to be around the chaotic people from your old life
 

GemState

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The day you stop associating yourself with people just because you have the same ethnicity, your social circle gonna improve a lot.
 

vanilla

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this makes me wonder am i a good friend? :oops:... i don't even know what it means to be a good friend tbh 😯
 
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Abdalla

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Can it be that you’re too giving? And get disappointed when the same energy isn’t reciprocated? I can understand coming across one or two fake people, but all of them? I’d say take a look at yourself and don’t force friendships

Besides, it wouldn’t or, should I say, it shouldn’t take a long time to see through fake people. If they hate others in your presence be assured they’d hate on you in your absence. Everything they do to others, they’ll do it to you.
 
Im not a snake but I never congratulate ppl, I wish good luck when they tell me they are aiming for something and thats it. I didnt even congratulate my sister when she told me she was pregnant. I was like oh wow nice, how many months?

Maybe thats why ppl find me distant, perhaps I should try smiling and congratulate when ppl share their achievements.
 
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