A Gentleman Crashes Out After Cashier Calls His Wife Beautiful

[novanova]

This why stoicism- focusing solely on what’s in your control. (Your thoughts, words, and actions.

Hypergamy- Accepting the fact that no woman ever belongs to you and it’s only your turn.

Are very important for one’s self respect and mental health, now that he has exposed his insecurities and lack of options.

what is he going to do when she eventually exercises her hypergamy, and leaves him for someone perhaps physically superior.

u need to stop using the internet

 

[The alchemist]

This why stoicism- focusing solely on what’s in your control. (Your thoughts, words, and actions.

Hypergamy- Accepting the fact that no woman ever belongs to you and it’s only your turn.

Are very important for one’s self respect and mental health, now that he has exposed his insecurities and lack of options.

what is he going to do when she eventually exercises her hypergamy, and leaves him for someone perhaps physically superior.

When I get a wife (inshallah), the "it's only my turn" mindset is not going to be present, that woman is mine. If she wants to leave, she is out. If she's with me, I am honoring her, and I expect her to honor me.

Stoicism is generally good, but it's not ideal in all situations. Why do you think H*tler was a powerful leader? The guy appealed to emotions, had speeches where he moved people (in the wrong direction). Emotions are extremely effective. Stoic in your emotional control but guyys that are stoic 24/7 are one dimensional and it is not balanced. It's important for inner emotional control, but how you project yourself cannot be stoic all the time. You can respond stoically in ways that matter; other times, being stoic is just not optimal. Still, I am an enjoyer of the quotes of Aurelius.

This does not go against the principle of focusing on what is in one's control.

Also back on the "it's just your turn." That makes sense for a lot of western relationships because of the ways people get with those women. Through one night stands, quick dates -- all of those women leave the way they came. Those are fleeting and it is true that majority of those women jump to new men every other so year even in relationship conditions. But you should never marry a woman you regard that low in the first place. If you have a wife, you can't disrespect her like that as if she was just the common floozy. That's not right. If it does not work, it does not work out. Just make sure to find a decent one you respect in the first place and don't treat her like the common street stroller.

The hypergamy thing is somewhat correct but don't be too caught up in that thinking. Analysis is one thing, practice is another. You can be a man of quality that finds quality and keep it. It does not mean hypergamy kicks in here and there, but life is more complicated and what informs on these simplified abstractions are usually very complex, often rational, sometimes grotesque and it is not inevitable to be a victim of it in your immediate life. Often times reality shift things because hypergamy is somewhat unbalanced in what other factors shapes the associative processes. But we don't need to intellectualize this matter more, or even go into it further, for that matter. To put it simply, the notion that everyone is trying to constantly upgrade is not true. How many time have I seen people stick together in their lowest state? How many times have I seen physically not the most attractive guys pull women, when they did not have much bread. Human beings don't behave in robotic ways and these evolutionary socialistic explanatory processes that try to say things are deterministically in one way are usually filled with extreme caveats. No one should listen to Jordan Peterson types on how to get women at all...

So although you speak truth, and that sentiment definitely fits the bill for a lot of the engagement between western men and women (with more dimensions, mind you), remember, we are Muslim. We should never talk like these cadaan guys who rightfully see it as it is for their women, but Muslim women in general are operatively different. And among them, you find plenty of women you'd be embarrassed to associate with casual promiscuous ones. You migh say that there is a growing number of western muslim women who think and sometimes act like the western ones, and although that is sometimes true and a big problem, all you need to do is avoid them. You can't engage with those ones, then complain about all Somali women. That is unfair.

There are realistic aspects about women in general, and frankly, it is what it is (what often make women beautiful is also a double edge sword and one have to be a samurai and wield it well). You just have to be a real man and also manage your woman so it works out and discern qualities in her early. That is a challenge. Hey, that is life. A lot of guys are unworthy of respect and wonder what their women act out. She reads you. Sure, she should behave and do her part right irregardless (there is no excuse for bad behavior, your wife being sub-par in her duties does not mean you can be lower quality, and vice versa. At least you say you did your best and you can divorce if she never improves. A lot of women don't understand that their duties as a wife is irrespective of the man. They're going to be questioned for their actions at the end of the day, same for us), but if she sees you as lesser, that is going to show eventually. If a woman lives with you, she will know who you are and if you're not an authentic man, but one of those guys that fake the funk to others, she will see that eventually.

That is why every man should strive to be of high caliber, then you can demand the best of your woman (who should be aleardy someone you respect and consider in high regard) and usually that leads to a less rocky road. That is not to say things out here is peachy and everything, there are plenty of women with self-destructive mindeset that bring that stuff to a relationship with it eventually crashing. But you need to be observant and see the gems when they appear and treasure them and be a good man, a man worthy of respect. I feel like a lot of people get lost in the reactionary sauce when have these gender wars.

There is a difference between being generally good and being a man, and you should combine them. There are good guys who are weak men and they cause problems. Then there are men who are not good. The latter gets way more women but that alone is not sustainable in a marriage. You should be a man, meaning, she respects you in that regard first and sees you as an authority figure in her life, and then you have a lot goodness. This sounds funny but like a benevolent king. Don't be just good, that is a recipe for disaster. A lot of people will not understand what I am talking about. For 98% of women, it does not matter how good you are if they see you as weak, their treatment of you will shift over time and you will get higher friction points in the marriage (it's like in their nature; they can't help it), even the majority good ones.

This does not mean turn into a robot, and have stoicism 100% all the time. One-track mindedness does not work. Women don't want a good male; they want a man who is good. And he is only good because he wants to, not because he needs to. He can switch if he wants, and she knows it, but he doesn't. It's over for you if your woman thinks you're without functioning fangs. The men who get the most disrespect are the ones who don't have fangs. Like vegetarian carnivores. When you want a leader, you want a strong, capable leader who is moral, not just moral.

 

[Taintedlove]

When I get a wife (inshallah), the "it's only my turn" mindset is not going to be present, that woman is mine. If she wants to leave, she is out. If she's with me, I am honoring her, and I expect her to honor me.

Stoicism is generally good, but it's not ideal in all situations. Why do you think H*tler was a powerful leader? The guy appealed to emotions, had speeches where he moved people (in the wrong direction). Emotions are extremely effective. Stoic in your emotional control but guyys that are stoic 24/7 are one dimensional and it is not balanced. It's important for inner emotional control, but how you project yourself cannot be stoic all the time. You can respond stoically in ways that matter; other times, being stoic is just not optimal. Still, I am an enjoyer of the quotes of Aurelius.

This does not go against the principle of focusing on what is in one's control.

Also back on the "it's just your turn." That makes sense for a lot of western relationships because of the ways people get with those women. Through one night stands, quick dates -- all of those women leave the way they came. Those are fleeting and it is true that majority of those women jump to new men every other so year even in relationship conditions. But you should never marry a woman you regard that low in the first place. If you have a wife, you can't disrespect her like that as if she was just the common floozy. That's not right. If it does not work, it does not work out. Just make sure to find a decent one you respect in the first place and don't treat her like the common street stroller.

The hypergamy thing is somewhat correct but don't be too caught up in that thinking. Analysis is one thing, practice is another. You can be a man of quality that finds quality and keep it. It does not mean hypergamy kicks in here and there, but life is more complicated and what informs on these simplified abstractions are usually very complex, often rational, sometimes grotesque and it is not inevitable to be a victim of it in your immediate life. Often times reality shift things because hypergamy is somewhat unbalanced in what other factors shapes the associative processes. But we don't need to intellectualize this matter more, or even go into it further, for that matter. To put it simply, the notion that everyone is trying to constantly upgrade is not true. How many time have I seen people stick together in their lowest state? How many times have I seen physically not the most attractive guys pull women, when they did not have much bread. Human beings don't behave in robotic ways and these evolutionary socialistic explanatory processes that try to say things are deterministically in one way are usually filled with extreme caveats. No one should listen to Jordan Peterson types on how to get women at all...

So although you speak truth, and that sentiment definitely fits the bill for a lot of the engagement between western men and women (with more dimensions, mind you), remember, we are Muslim. We should never talk like these cadaan guys who rightfully see it as it is for their women, but Muslim women in general are operatively different. And among them, you find plenty of women you'd be embarrassed to associate with casual promiscuous ones. You migh say that there is a growing number of western muslim women who think and sometimes act like the western ones, and although that is sometimes true and a big problem, all you need to do is avoid them. You can't engage with those ones, then complain about all Somali women. That is unfair.

There are realistic aspects about women in general, and frankly, it is what it is (what often make women beautiful is also a double edge sword and one have to be a samurai and wield it well). You just have to be a real man and also manage your woman so it works out and discern qualities in her early. That is a challenge. Hey, that is life. A lot of guys are unworthy of respect and wonder what their women act out. She reads you. Sure, she should behave and do her part right irregardless (there is no excuse for bad behavior, your wife being sub-par in her duties does not mean you can be lower quality, and vice versa. At least you say you did your best and you can divorce if she never improves. A lot of women don't understand that their duties as a wife is irrespective of the man. They're going to be questioned for their actions at the end of the day, same for us), but if she sees you as lesser, that is going to show eventually. If a woman lives with you, she will know who you are and if you're not an authentic man, but one of those guys that fake the funk to others, she will see that eventually.

That is why every man should strive to be of high caliber, then you can demand the best of your woman (who should be aleardy someone you respect and consider in high regard) and usually that leads to a less rocky road. That is not to say things out here is peachy and everything, there are plenty of women with self-destructive mindeset that bring that stuff to a relationship with it eventually crashing. But you need to be observant and see the gems when they appear and treasure them and be a good man, a man worthy of respect. I feel like a lot of people get lost in the reactionary sauce when have these gender wars.

There is a difference between being generally good and being a man, and you should combine them. There are good guys who are weak men and they cause problems. Then there are men who are not good. The latter gets way more women but that alone is not sustainable in a marriage. You should be a man, meaning, she respects you in that regard first and sees you as an authority figure in her life, and then you have a lot goodness. This sounds funny but like a benevolent king. Don't be just good, that is a recipe for disaster. A lot of people will not understand what I am talking about. For 98% of women, it does not matter how good you are if they see you as weak, their treatment of you will shift over time and you will get higher friction points in the marriage (it's like in their nature; they can't help it), even the majority good ones.

This does not mean turn into a robot, and have stoicism 100% all the time. One-track mindedness does not work. Women don't want a good male; they want a man who is good. And he is only good because he wants to, not because he needs to. He can switch if he wants, and she knows it, but he doesn't. It's over for you if your woman thinks you're without functioning fangs. The men who get the most disrespect are the ones who don't have fangs. Like vegetarian carnivores. When you want a leader, you want a strong, capable leader who is moral, not just moral.

This just sounds like you have issues. Why can’t men act normal around other men. You’re not a soldier, relax about this honour business.

 

[The alchemist]

This just sounds like you have issues. Why can’t men act normal around other men. You’re not a soldier, relax about this honour business.

This response tells the rest that you lack comprehension. Weirdo brought "soldier" in by me mentioning honor in relationships in one sentence, and says that me calling for balance and not rigidity is a problem.

This is an example of some people who are not right in the head will read something and conjure up stories. Their range of false interpretation, inability to stick to the simple language brought before them, is quite curious, and definitely reflects having issues. Imagine this man-woman, whatever it is, in a discussion, can't even stick to a simple text; imagine the daunting reality of being in a relationship with someone so mentally warped.

Don't you ever bring your stupidity this shamelessly in front of me, trying to lie and imbue unrelated aspects to what I wrote.

 

[The alchemist]

If anyone wants to comment on my text from now on, make sure you can read and write and you have normal intelligence, maturity, and of course, mental stability. That is a normal prerequisite. If not, go and get help and don't bother. I can't help solve your problems you project onto my text, and my text is not speaking to you. It's for the normal man and woman.

 

[AbrahamFreedom]

I thought it was Canada until I saw the white guy. Looks like the Indian invasion is coming to America too, although they’re not Sikhs.

 

[novanova]

I thought it was Canada until I saw the guy white guy. Looks like the Indian invasion is coming to America too, although they’re not Sikhs.

oromo marka wax laga sheego oohin aa bilawda, but I see u dragging desis everyday

 

[samira24]

How is he embarrassing his fellow Indians like this? Does he not know that people are just going to make fun of Indians and be racist to his people since the indian hate is in full effect?

 

[Burqad]

Where are the romantic men of old? He should have asked him to step outside

 

[reggie]

How is he embarrassing his fellow Indians like this? Does he not know that people are just going to make fun of Indians and be racist to his people since the indian hate is in full effect?

He’s Pakistani he doesn’t see himself as an Indian that’s why

 

[Garaannabad]

Yh he should have approached it differently. If it was me personally i would have told him listen thats my wife dont be talking to her like that. If he kept on persisting then we throwing hands. Cant let disrespect like that slide.

But what if I can't throw hands?

 

[Basra]

I cant blame him

You are a woman, how do u relate to THIS???

 

[Hotchick12]

A lil inappropriate but nothing to crash out over ..

That India comment explains why he felt a need to perform like this, I think he has internalized all the discourse about rapey indian men and he feels embarrassed by his co-ethnics

he’s actually pakistani

 

[Hotchick12]

i get it imagine if a ethiopian man called your wife beautiful you would crash out. he saw the pakistani flag and wanted to emasculate this man infront of his wife

 

[Garaannabad]

I agree with all the man over here, because this is concerning a men mostly...but keep the woman in the house for a option as if she was some object!!?

 

[Unicorn]

Oh hes so embarassing.

 

[empressjamila]

“You’re looking so good” is disrespectful, especially with him being present so I understand why he is offended.

But he should have been calmer. Yelling like that only makes him look like an unhinged psycho. It doesn’t command respect, quite the opposite actually