15k meher is reasonable in 2018.

Hybrid said:

Im 26. I don’t ever wanna move out of CA. I want my future kids to be the future developers for google.

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lol I didn’t expect you to be this old lol.

I usually assume everyone here is around the age of 21 besides a few outliers.

I’d rather use the money for a down payment on a house. Houses be expensive and shit, and it’s a better return instead of going on a splurg only to regret it later. Also, if he is paying for the wedding I’ll contribute as well, but I’d be willing to save my money and go on a budget so I could add to the down payment and security costs so we could buy a house 1-2 years after our marriage. Either we do 50/50, or he pays and I save for a return that benefits the BOTH of us. Marriage isn’t a one way street, it’s a partnership and his money is your money and vice versa. Stop thinking like it’s separate.

lalayariis said:

I’d rather use the money for a down payment on a house. Houses be expensive and shit, and it’s a better return instead of going on a splurg only to regret it later. Also, if he is paying for the wedding I’ll contribute as well, but I’d be willing to save my money and go on a budget so I could add to the down payment and security costs so we could buy a house 1-2 years after our marriage. Either we do 50/50, or he pays and I save for a return that benefits the BOTH of us. Marriage isn’t a one way street, it’s a partnership and his money is your money and vice versa. Stop thinking like it’s separate.

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Walahi aad baa uu aqli badantahay. They are trying to destroy their future savings. Aqli xumo

Meher is obviously an outdated concept for Somalis in the west in the 21st century. Since both men and women are working and supporting themselves, it makes no sense to ask.

There is an obvious exception, which is the housewife, who for pragmatic reasons will want a man who can provide for her and her kids. As such, the only women who I believe have a leg to stand on when asking for a lot when it comes to meher are housewives. There's no logical reason for other women to ask.

Also, the price should be correlated to things that the man will expect in return.

The higher the price, the more traditional and classically desirable the woman ought to be to justify the price.

I.E.

-Desires to be a housewife.
-Desires to maintain her figure.
-Maintained her virginity.
-Wishes to marry young.
-Does not distort her beauty.
-Has like-minded female friends.
-Has a healthy relationship with her family.
-Loves the idea of being a stay at home mother.
-Has a strong level of faith in Islam.
-Is a traditional wife in respect to how she behaves around her husband.

Now obviously such a magical woman will have the right to choose whatever she wants under the conditions that the man himself carries conditions himself.

I.E.

-Highly educated.
-Has a strong professional career (i.e. Banking, Management, Accounting, Engineering, Medicine, Law, Pharmacy, or Academia under the condition that he's so intelligent that he'll be a tenure professor)
-Has a strong desire to have children and be an amazing father.
-Maintained his virginity.
-Maintains his healthy and physique.
-Will be an amazing role model for sons to be like him and create an image of how a man should be for his daughters when choosing a spouse.
-Is romantic.
-Has a strong level of faith in Islam.
-Is tall.
-Is handsome.


The point is simple:

If you know you're not the shit, don't ask for things like you are. Especially when you're looking for a traditional form of relationship. It's a lifestyle you cannot half ass.

I'm not religious, nor am I interested in this type of marriage. I do, however respect some of the concepts that in my eyes will help in maintaining a strong healthy marriage.

YourBroMoe said:

Meher is obviously an outdated concept for Somalis in the west in the 21st century. Since both men and women are working and supporting themselves, it makes no sense to ask.

There is an obvious exception, which is the housewife, who for pragmatic reasons will want a man who can provide for her and her kids. As such, the only women who I believe have a leg to stand on when asking for a lot when it comes to meher are housewives. There's no logical reason for other women to ask.

Also, the price should be correlated to things that the man will expect in return.

The higher the price, the more traditional and classically desirable the woman ought to be to justify the price.

I.E.

-Desires to be a housewife.
-Desires to maintain her figure.
-Maintained her virginity.
-Wishes to marry young.
-Does not distort her beauty.
-Has like-minded female friends.
-Has a healthy relationship with her family.
-Loves the idea of being a stay at home mother.
-Has a strong level of faith in Islam.
-Is a traditional wife in respect to how she behaves around her husband.

Now obviously such a magical woman will have the right to choose whatever she wants under the conditions that the man himself carries conditions himself.

I.E.

-Highly educated.
-Has a strong professional career (i.e. Banking, Management, Accounting, Engineering, Medicine, Law, Pharmacy, or Academia under the condition that he's so intelligent that he'll be a tenure professor)
-Has a strong desire to have children and be an amazing father.
-Maintained his virginity.
-Maintains his healthy and physique.
-Will be an amazing role model for sons to be like him and create an image of how a man should be for his daughters when choosing a spouse.
-Is romantic.
-Has a strong level of faith in Islam.
-Is tall.
-Is handsome.


The point is simple:

If you know you're not the shit, don't ask for things like you are. Especially when you're looking for a traditional form of relationship. It's a lifestyle you cannot half ass.

I'm not religious, nor am I interested in this type of marriage. I do, however respect some of the concepts that in my eyes will help in maintaining a strong healthy marriage.

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You know 99% of Somalis dont pay the mehr right.
In somali culture if you give her mehr then she thinks you are getting married again or divorce.

YourBroMoe said:

Meher is obviously an outdated concept for Somalis in the west in the 21st century. Since both men and women are working and supporting themselves, it makes no sense to ask.

There is an obvious exception, which is the housewife, who for pragmatic reasons will want a man who can provide for her and her kids. As such, the only women who I believe have a leg to stand on when asking for a lot when it comes to meher are housewives. There's no logical reason for other women to ask.

Also, the price should be correlated to things that the man will expect in return.

The higher the price, the more traditional and classically desirable the woman ought to be to justify the price.

I.E.

-Desires to be a housewife.
-Desires to maintain her figure.
-Maintained her virginity.
-Wishes to marry young.
-Does not distort her beauty.
-Has like-minded female friends.
-Has a healthy relationship with her family.
-Loves the idea of being a stay at home mother.
-Has a strong level of faith in Islam.
-Is a traditional wife in respect to how she behaves around her husband.

Now obviously such a magical woman will have the right to choose whatever she wants under the conditions that the man himself carries conditions himself.

I.E.

-Highly educated.
-Has a strong professional career (i.e. Banking, Management, Accounting, Engineering, Medicine, Law, Pharmacy, or Academia under the condition that he's so intelligent that he'll be a tenure professor)
-Has a strong desire to have children and be an amazing father.
-Maintained his virginity.
-Maintains his healthy and physique.
-Will be an amazing role model for sons to be like him and create an image of how a man should be for his daughters when choosing a spouse.
-Is romantic.
-Has a strong level of faith in Islam.
-Is tall.
-Is handsome.


The point is simple:

If you know you're not the shit, don't ask for things like you are. Especially when you're looking for a traditional form of relationship. It's a lifestyle you cannot half ass.

I'm not religious, nor am I interested in this type of marriage. I do, however respect some of the concepts that in my eyes will help in maintaining a strong healthy marriage.

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All i was told to pay was tiro ari. 100 goats. Anyway she forgave it less then 6 months later.
Imblessed Alx. You are talking about 15k for a short-term marriage. Ma walantinhin

Suldaanka said:

Walahi aad baa uu aqli badantahay. They are trying to destroy their future savings. Aqli xumo

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Wad mahadsantahay aboowe. For real though, I can’t believe how many people think that they’ll just magically have enough money to settle down if they spend their earnings left and right without investing. That’s like playing the lottery only you’ll lose each time.

It's, but not for Somali women.

Market rate in london is 3k.

Black xaarlimos only getting wild sums on twitter and insta

The almighty

I want my Xaalimo to look at her Meher like ryuk looks at apples

Blade1 said:

But not every woman that asks for alot of mehr is materialistic that's a way for her ask for a certain amount since the man will need to provide for her like her father has and she has that right.
Not to say alot of women aren't materialistic it's in our genes to ensure more security

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The Best mehr is the easy one nabi mohamed said it dont you think you should obey nabi

Na'Us 1000 Shilin is fairly enough, no need to be greedy.

Dadir said:

The Best mehr is the easy one nabi mohamed said it dont you think you should obey nabi

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I've said this so many times I'll keep it short Allah gave the women to demand any amount of mehr and he, the man asking for her needs to give it not lower it if he wants her hand in marriage. Qalaas that's her right