What are you smoking, we're more qabilist than ever. There's no way a unified Somalia will happen this generation. Young generation are qabilist too. I don't know if theres a way to defeat this evil thing. "New SYL" will also have qabilism because founding it has honour as well, no one wants to be in an Antiqabil group made by the other qabil.
Our ancesters are turning in their graves. I suggest y'all read Abdirazak Haji Hussein's Political Memoir. The things in that book will make your blood boil. You'll undastand how bad the British and Italians were and they had a strict policy of making sure everyone identifies with there qabil, the british were even mad SYL deliberately stopped going by their qabils.
I don´t think some kind of institutions or big movements will be able to achieve that because of the reasons u said, a more faster and stable way to defeat qaabil would be wealth creation.
Right now the only thing that somalis can lose is their qaabil. Thats why somalis are ready to die for their qaabil and we need to change that. Someone that has a house, a job, children that go to school and a reliable healthcare system won´t go to war for fucking qaabil he has alot more to lose now.
Money also moves people, the most qaabilist person in Somalia would move instantly to the "enemy qaabil territory" when there is money to be made.
I know it sounds like "just become rich" but that stigma could be even defeatet if the local mom and pop shop would realize that they are missing out the big bag because thay have to limit their talent-pool because of qaabil.