Would you ignore your parents in this situation?

[Codeine]

My friend is beefing his family because they're refusing to let him marry his Polish gf. Funnily enough, I remember attending his half-sister's wedding many years back when I was like 14. I don't know what that nigga she married was, but he was not Somali. Probably Senegalese because he was Muslim, but he looked West African anyway.

He hasn't brought that up and knowing him it hasn't even crossed his mind.

I know for sure I can convince him to tell his family to f*ck off and go through with it regardless. I think he should... I would've told anyone else to do so but habaryar Fartuun is like the only tolerable and sweet habar out there.

He's a grown man, I don't think he should listen to his parents on this one. Should I pull the trigger and make him go nuclear?

I also wanna call his father a cuck but... that's still his dad

 

[Ubax45_]

I would stay out of it, if he is a grown man he has to deal with his own problems. If you help him with this and he goes ahead and marries this woman, he will still need the confidence and ability to deal with future conflicts between his wife and family.

Also knowing Somalis this whole thing could turn on you and you'll be known as the person whose causing problems in other families.

 

[Codeine]

I would stay out of it, if he is a grown man he has to deal with his own problems. If you help him with this and he goes ahead and marries this woman, he will still need the confidence and ability to deal with future conflicts between his wife and family.

I've known him forever and it's more brotherly advice. Advice I know he'll take. It's not about confidence, he's a very reasonable person and understands he's naturally looking at it from one POV and I'm the outside voice. I know 100% I wouldn't tolerate that nonsense, even from my dear hooyo. Only reason I'm hesitating is because his family is generally very nice and close, this could f*ck that up. But they're very wrong nonetheless.

 

[anonymous34]

Tell him to listen to his parents and not marry a dofaar looking polish white chick

 

[dhegdheer]

I wouldn't listen to my parents either but that's because they're probably going to say no to all my choices

Tell ur friend to follow his heart, if that means having ur family cancel u then so be it

 

[Codeine]

Tell him to listen to his parents and not marry a dofaar looking polish white chick

She's a pretty and well behaved catholic girl. If that's what pigs look like, lead me to the nearest farm with a bottle of olive oil

 

[agnes]

Why am I getting this feeling that you are this friend. Hmm

 

[Codeine]

Why am I getting this feeling that you are this friend. Hmm

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[Dino]

My friend is beefing his family because they're refusing to let him marry his Polish gf. Funnily enough, I remember attending his half-sister's wedding many years back when I was like 14. I don't know what that nigga she married was, but he was not Somali. Probably Senegalese because he was Muslim, but he looked West African anyway.

He hasn't brought that up and knowing him it hasn't even crossed his mind.

I know for sure I can convince him to tell his family to f*ck off and go through with it regardless. I think he should... I would've told anyone else to do so but habaryar Fartuun is like the only tolerable and sweet habar out there.

He's a grown man, I don't think he should listen to his parents on this one. Should I pull the trigger and make him go nuclear?

I also wanna call his father a cuck but... that's still his dad

Where do you even start on this situation? There is so many messed up things in this situation. Imagine you raise up a child looking for ward to grand kids only to be confronted by a daughter in law or a son in law who can't speak your langauge your daqan etc etc.

Not to mention your child committing zina. Once upon a time i would feel sorry for the parents but now not anymore. When your child disobeys you, it means he or she has no respect for you. They may love you but they have no respect for who you are. As a parent then you know you have failed at parenting big time.

Long story short OP, you're friend is messed up

 

[Reign]

Hes a grown man that can make his own decisions. Mummy and daddy wont be there to hold your hand 20 years from now when you're in an unhappy marriage.

However If hes close to his parents and they have a good relatioship then he should listen to them.

 

[Codeine]

Where do you even start on this situation? There is so many messed up things in this situation. Imagine you raise up a child looking for ward to grand kids only to be confronted by a daughter in law or a son in law who can't speak your langauge your daqan etc etc.

Not to mention your child committing zina. Once upon a time i would feel sorry for the parents but now not anymore. When your child disobeys you, it means he or she has no respect for you. They may love you but they have no respect for who you are. As a parent then you know you have failed at parenting big time.

Long story short OP, you're friend is messed up

But they already have a foreign in-law so that obviously isn't an issue.

Besides if it was that important your ass should've stayed in Somalia

 

[Codeine]

Hes a grown man that can make his own decisions. Mummy and daddy wont be there to hold your hand 20 years from now when you're in an unhappy marriage.

However If hes close to his parents and they have a good relatioship then he should listen to them.

They're very close. But do you listen even if they're blatantly wrong?

 

[Dino]

But they already have a foreign in-law so that obviously isn't an issue.

Besides if it was that important your ass should've stayed in Somalia

It's kinda ironic that they have no issue with their daughter marrying out of race but their son is. Like i said. There is something wrong in that family. Anyhow denbi badan bun galey.

Your friend is free to marry who he likes. But considering the fact he is doing haram and disobeying illahi what difference does it make vis a vis his parents concerns

 

[GodKnowsBest]

Not to mention your child committing zina. p

What? Who said they were committing zina? Even if they were don't jump to conclusions without all the info.

I know for sure I can convince him to tell his family to f*ck off and go through with it regardless.

Why is it somehow okay to tell a person to rid themselves of their parents? If this was a girl you would never give that advice.

I'm in the boat where I wouldn't go against my parents in marriage if I didn't have to but because I can't please them similarly to @dhegdheer I might be forced to go against their wishes anyway. The person they would want me to marry would go against all my morals and principles and I really don't want to lose myself just to please my parents.

@Codeine In the case of your friend don't interfere. It really is none of your business and relationships come and go, family doesn't go. If it follows their deen he should go along with it and explain it to them, the daughter married a Senegalese Muslim, he's going to marry a Catholic. Even though it's allowed in your religion doesn't mean it's suggested to happen. If his parents are anything like my parents (which they aren't because the daughter married a Senegalese) he might have to temporarily lose his whole family. I say temporarily because usually moms turn around and want to help their children. The dad... That's a different story. I would never marry while under my dad's household. I would make sure I'm financially stable and well off that way he wouldn't hate me completely.

 

[Reign]

They're very close. But do you listen even if they're blatantly wrong?

Why are they refusing the girl? Because shes Polish? Maybe they have their reasons and I'm sure they are good reasons. If you know in your heart they are wrong and you're not just acting on emotions then make your own decision. You're a grown man. However parents are usually wise and only want the best for you so tell your friend to step back, have a think and try to see things from his parents perspective.

 

[Inactive]

Why did he let himself get close to a Polish woman in the first place if he knew his parents wouldn't approve? The Poles I have observed here would also not approve of marrying someone from Africa. She has the same issue to deal with.

People do these things to themselves.

 

[Keo]

It's best if he listens to his parents to be honest. He couldn't find any other cadaan at least so he had to settle for a Polish? If I ever wanted to marry an cadaan (which I never will) I would never choose a Polish one.

 

[Codeine]

Why did he let himself get close to a Polish woman in the first place if he knew his parents wouldn't approve? The Poles I have observered here would also not approve of marrying someone from Africa. She has the same issue to deal with.

People do these things to themselves.

Ehh, tbh the only thing polish about her is the hard to spell surname

Besides, why wouldn't he??? Aren't you always rambling on about integrating?

 

[DeathWish]

I wouldn't listen to my parents either but that's because they're probably going to say no to all my choices

Tell ur friend to follow his heart, if that means having ur family cancel u then so be it

That is the dumbest thing I have ever heard. So you're going to "cancel" your family for a girl you knew for about 1-2 years, while your family raised you for 20+ years?

My friend is beefing his family because they're refusing to let him marry his Polish gf. Funnily enough, I remember attending his half-sister's wedding many years back when I was like 14. I don't know what that nigga she married was, but he was not Somali. Probably Senegalese because he was Muslim, but he looked West African anyway.

He hasn't brought that up and knowing him it hasn't even crossed his mind.

I know for sure I can convince him to tell his family to f*ck off and go through with it regardless. I think he should... I would've told anyone else to do so but habaryar Fartuun is like the only tolerable and sweet habar out there.

He's a grown man, I don't think he should listen to his parents on this one. Should I pull the trigger and make him go nuclear?

I also wanna call his father a cuck but... that's still his dad

Tell your friend to listen to his family because his family will always be there for him. He might even divorce this girl in a year or two. Why go against your family when they want what's best for you?
His parents don't like this girl because she is Catholic and not Muslim while his sister married a Senegalese Muslim. They don't want his kids to become kaffirs possibly.

 

[Codeine]

It's best if he listens to his parents to be honest. He couldn't find any other cadaan at least so he had to settle for a Polish? If I ever wanted to marry an cadaan (which I never will) I would never choose a Polish one.

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