Why u making like 5’7 shortOk.... I know a lot of Somali girls scream that want 50k, but it's mostly to impress other girls. I have never in my life heard of a wedding failing to happen due to someone not being able to fulfill mahr requirements. She's screaming 50k on the TL, but she'll marry a 5'7 Abdi and go halves on the wedding if he gives her attention
the mehr goes to the wife, not to her familyLMAO you're all dumb. At best Abdis spend between 5 to 10k on the mehr but this whole thing you hear which amounts to 30k is usually spent on finding a house, furniture and everything that goes into the house. The actual wedding is about $4k because food and the cake and the one day rent for the hall. Most Abdis money goes to the house and honeymoon.
No Abdi actually pays $50k to the family and then some more for the house and wedding.
No it goes to the family. They control the asking price as well. Most kind families tend to push the mehr down to 1 condition which is divorce. So as long as your married you don't need to pay the mehr only when you divorce is when you pay. That's what my friend did. This whole asking for it upfront started because a lot of men who're usually pissed off getting divorced would refuse to pay.the mehr goes to the wife, not to her family