Why are Somali women expected to do everything???

Tired of what? In reality is the opposite. Multiple studies show that in 50/50 households women still do all the cooking and cleaning. They still do all the things women of old used to do, but now have an added burden of working along side their husbands.

So I fail to see what you are tired about. The problem in this day and age is that no one cares about the 'facts' but about simply how they feel and the regurgitated talking points of other men who know nothing about reality.

I don't know any modern woman who is a mother that doesn't do housework or cook and clean. Its virtually impossible to live that existance and actually raise kids and family, unless the woman has a maid and lives back home or the Middle East. Middle class traditional women back home and the ME are the ones 'winning'.
maybe women shouldn’t be modern women of modern life is so hard. Return to the traditional way and live the arabs way
 
It might have to do with the fact that some wish they’re women and didn’t have to provide. We have it “so easy” by just “staying home” and having babies (no mention of the fact that a woman who dies during birth is a martyr because she’s the closest to death).

Its 2021 and women work so there goes the myth that working outside is harder. Working was harder when men went to battle, worked in mines or did gruelling work at a factory.

We know what it is to work and pay bills now and I don't for one second believe what I do is easier (even though my job is demanding) than what my mum does which is tedious, tiring and in many ways unappreciated if you end up marrying the wrong man. I get breaks, holidays, bonus ect and whilst housewives get no such perks.
 
maybe women shouldn’t be modern women if modern life is so hard. Return to the traditional way and live the arabs

Modern life wouldn't be hard, if some men had compassion and helped their wives, the way women help men. The thing is unfortunately, due to the cost of living Western men NEED their wives to work. Many of you lot cannot afford to give a woman the luxury of being able to stay home even for a few years until the kids are older. So your suggestion is funny.
 
Modern life wouldn't be hard, if some men had compassion and helped their wives, the way women help men. The thing is unfortunately, due to the cost of living Western men NEED their wives to work. Many of you lot cannot afford to give a woman the luxury of being able to stay home even for a few years until the kids are older. So your suggestion is funny.
What does ‘help’ entail?
 
What does ‘help’ entail?

If your wife is helping YOU with providing. You in turn need to help her with looking after the home. Simple as.

Childcare should obviously be shared as the kids are just as much yours as they are hers. Although due to breastfeeding and the nurturing qualities of women, the mother will end up doing more when the child is under 5.
 
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If your wife is helping YOU with providing. You in turn need to help her with looking after the home. Simple as.

Childcare should obviously be shared as the kids are just as much yours as they are hers. Although due to breastfeeding and the nurturing qualities of women, the mother will end up doing more when the child is under 5.
If your cucked enough were you wife pays the bills, wallahi you better be slaving in the kitchen like a naag
 

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Lol a surprising amount of Somali women think like this, I've even met some in my Uni who plan to be housewives after they graduate. The degree is just to show they are not a basic bïtch
 
Life would definitely be less stressful for a lot of you if you'd quit blaming every single shortcoming or calamity on Somali men.

:childplease: Also, I like how just about every thread on this forum is about marriage, yet neither of the Faraxs or Xalimos on here have even been engaged before. No one here (including myself, if I might add) is even at the proper age of marriage, yet speak of marital affairs like the guru of relationship roles.

:drakekidding: Speak from experience if any of you want the smallest amount of credence for what you spew.
 

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50/50 Talk.
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Unless he wants to 'share' carrying a child for 9 months.
 

Yukon_Niner

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Go bless feminism
Stop blaming feminism. It has nothing to do with it. The exploitation of women’s labor is a built in African custom. Black males regardless of nationality are know for this.
What do you mean? We African males were the first feminists and this is how you darkie women repay us even though we chose to stay with you. It seems the African female is inherently ungrateful, time to divest:tocry:
 
Modern life wouldn't be hard, if some men had compassion and helped their wives, the way women help men. The thing is unfortunately, due to the cost of living Western men NEED their wives to work. Many of you lot cannot afford to give a woman the luxury of being able to stay home even for a few years until the kids are older. So your suggestion is funny.
When I get rich (inshallah) I'm going to marry a woman from Somalia or an islamic traditional household, and I'll move out of this cursed country into somewhere peaceful and far away! Live the traditional life with lots of kids, be peaceful and happy and live the life while your wife makes you macaan food :kanyecute:
 
As a traditional man I have no issues with assuming my responsibilities as long as she's comfortable assuming hers.

As a selfish person, I personally wouldn't want my wife to work for anyone but me or my children.

They will each be assigned duties and responsibilities, one will be tasked with child rearing the other with homeschooling the children and one to care for the wellbeing of the home.
 
Why are somali women expected to do everything
why are faraxs so annoying
why are xaalimos so ratchet

:mjkkk: is this the daily thoughts of us diaspora
 
I literally do not understand this. We do not have to work or have to take care of other peoples children or do emotional labour for the whole family. It's crazy how the roles have reversed and Somali women/girls are expected to wear the pants in the house and do all this work meanwhile the men are coddled. Wallahi I'm genuinely concerned cause I've had arguments with older Somali relatives about this and they are telling me things like "you just can't rely on a man today" or " white women are working and having kids at the same time." However, we are not white people, we have our own culture/religion that says the financial responsibilities are on the fathers/husbands to provide. I don't even blame a lot of women that have internalized this idea of being a super individual that has to suffer in the name of feminism. I'm not even anti-feminism. I just criticize feminism and am aware of how it's low-key harming the Somali community (can't believe I am actually saying this). You are even coming across some Somali men wanting to split bills with their wives or saying they wouldn't buy clothes or a nice purse for them because they don't have to or it's unnecessary. Like whatttt I thought men would love to spoil a woman that they love and care about and not expect her to pull out her own debit card at the register. I sound like I'm venting right now, but I'm so over this shit. I am just so tired of having to go outside and work full-time and being pressured to go do my masters when I want to bake and engage in fulfilling hobbies and find a part-time/casual job.


Because us somali women did it to our selves. We tolerate too much bs for these men who hate us. Blame us for everything. Look at every somali shiekhs when he opens his mouth his only lecturing women kinda like when bull knows who to pick. These shiekhs never lecture somali men as if they’re God. If there is any somali women in the west and she accepts bs from her husband then she did it to herself. Our whole culture is deeply rooted in hating us and making us suffer. Is time to say No.
 
Because us somali women did it to our selves. We tolerate too much bs for these men who hate us. Blame us for everything. Look at every somali shiekhs when he opens his mouth his only lecturing women kinda like when bull knows who to pick. These shiekhs never lecture somali men as if they’re God. If there is any somali women in the west and she accepts bs from her husband then she did it to herself. Our whole culture is deeply rooted in hating us and making us suffer. Is time to say No.
Somali women have zero power in their own society what sense does it make to blame them for being socialised in a society that treats them like second class citizens from birth? They are victims.
 

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