I literally do not understand this. We do not have to work or have to take care of other peoples children or do emotional labour for the whole family. It's crazy how the roles have reversed and Somali women/girls are expected to wear the pants in the house and do all this work meanwhile the men are coddled. Wallahi I'm genuinely concerned cause I've had arguments with older Somali relatives about this and they are telling me things like "you just can't rely on a man today" or " white women are working and having kids at the same time." However, we are not white people, we have our own culture/religion that says the financial responsibilities are on the fathers/husbands to provide. I don't even blame a lot of women that have internalized this idea of being a super individual that has to suffer in the name of feminism. I'm not even anti-feminism. I just criticize feminism and am aware of how it's low-key harming the Somali community (can't believe I am actually saying this). You are even coming across some Somali men wanting to split bills with their wives or saying they wouldn't buy clothes or a nice purse for them because they don't have to or it's unnecessary. Like whatttt I thought men would love to spoil a woman that they love and care about and not expect her to pull out her own debit card at the register. I sound like I'm venting right now, but I'm so over this shit. I am just so tired of having to go outside and work full-time and being pressured to go do my masters when I want to bake and engage in fulfilling hobbies and find a part-time/casual job.