Obviously, growing up in a Somali household, if you did something wrong, then Hooyo or Aabo would buss out the suun or the charging cable or slap you or some other form of violence which is intended for us to stop doing whatever we were doing. Me being raised like this, I don't necessarily think I was being abused in any way, because I have grown to handle it and understand where they are coming from. However, I personally abhor using this as a parent when I do become one myself, and don't want to hit my kids at all, regardless of what they did. My children are human beings and not animals, and when we use violence as a form of discipline then I feel like it doesn't give the kid enough dignity and worth, like sure I gave birth to you but you are still your own human being, right? Anyways I just want to know what you think discipline is and your stance on hitting children to "teach them a lesson."
What do you think discipline is when it comes to raising kids?
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There are Somali parents who didn’t do this. Im basing this on my own personal experience but I’m sure not going to be the only one. Hitting a child shouldn’t be used as the first line of discipline. I think I only ever got a minor physical punishment once in my life. And that was because I was behaving like a wannabe gaalo teenager at 13 by talking back and not listening.
My role model on parenting and life in general is our Nabi Muhammad ﷺ. I believe the gaalo who specialize in this nowadays take lessons from his life and then perform scientific testing to have data to back it up. A while ago there was a trend talking about how hitting to discipline your kids isn’t beneficial. The parents justified their discipline method based on how they were raised and whether or not it helped shape them up positively or not.
Being a good parent requires a great deal of patience and understanding of the stage your child is at
My role model on parenting and life in general is our Nabi Muhammad ﷺ. I believe the gaalo who specialize in this nowadays take lessons from his life and then perform scientific testing to have data to back it up. A while ago there was a trend talking about how hitting to discipline your kids isn’t beneficial. The parents justified their discipline method based on how they were raised and whether or not it helped shape them up positively or not.
Being a good parent requires a great deal of patience and understanding of the stage your child is at
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Same my abo only ever hit me once in my life i was in grade 4 or 5 and it was because the microwave exploded since I didn’t want to help my little brother
. Alhamdullilah by the time my parents we’re raising me and my younger siblings they realized beatings were not the answer. Sad for my older siblings though 
I have faith in our generation. We will break cycles of violence. Also don’t underestimate the power of words. I once told my little sister “I’m not mad. I’m disappointed in you” and she cried so hard
. So yeah we can discipline children without giving them bruises and making them fear us.
You need to beat them thats why u have moryaans joining gangs. Miskeen parents at home
xLibaxsenderx
Hana deul
Discipline is establishing boundaries and if breached, penalizing them to the islamic extent meaning no lasting wounds, if the offense is frequent isolation would be the next step.
Once you have kids of your own you'll want to slap them outside the head as well. You'll also be more grateful to your parents for raising you. It's not easy.
I like to think of my own qiyamah. How am i going to justify this to Allah. You simply can’t. The child is entrusted to you by Allah. Raise the child with principal’s and teach them the meaning of them.
the trick is to communicate with them like adults to a certain degree.
we keep to dumber than they should be all in the name of the child is to young to understand. Which is false because the child’s mind although still developing, is still an implacable biological computer.
i don’t have children yet. However this is the way i am going to raise them.
the trick is to communicate with them like adults to a certain degree.
we keep to dumber than they should be all in the name of the child is to young to understand. Which is false because the child’s mind although still developing, is still an implacable biological computer.
i don’t have children yet. However this is the way i am going to raise them.
JohnCena
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10000000000% facts. There's studies that prove that beating a child is actually bad long term for your kids.
Beating your kids is the laziest form of discipline. What has a child learned from their past behavior if all they get is beats? It will just lead to resentment and eventually, they will outgrow the beats, and what then?
But beating kids only leads to them becoming mentally unstable. Look at all these serial killers and rapists and pedophiles. What they all have in common is that they have been abused by someone in their life, usually their family. I'm not trying to justify their actions but you can see what caused them to become who they are.
I don't get you...
xLibaxsenderx
Hana deul
Don't go overboard in physical punishments such as beatings, and if that don't work ground them
makes sense thnx
But why fear, aren't they your kids? How are they meant to love you as a parent if they are scared of you? Isn't it sad knowing your kids only listen to you because they are scared of you?
Trust me when I say pain and corporal punishment is a great motivator. Obviously don’t beat them like a slave and be merciless when you do discipline your kids but always correct their wrongdoings. It works wonders with me and all the Somali kids in my neighborhood
It might've worked for our generation but do you think this method would work for the next gen?
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