The Significance of Age Difference in a relationship

[Manafesto]

A lot of people would argue against it due to the difference in life experience (among other things), but I think that's rather invalid seeing as everyone has different experiences. Saying an 18 year old shouldn't date a 34 year old due to life experience is like saying someone from the country shouldn't date someone from the city 'cause they've had 'very different lives'.

Anyway, at 18 you're legally an adult. People's approval or disapproval doesn't matter.

I've always been of the opinion that anything of a relationship or sexual nature is okay as long as it's between consenting adults. I don't give a shit if it's kinky S&M bedroom play or just a difference in age, if it's legal it's legal.

Do you think this opinion should also apply to even more dramatic differences (i.e. 18 and 80)? Or am I just wrong from the start?

All couple-related stuff depends on the couple I think. Not two couples will be the same. These days it's becoming common again for people to be in relationships/ date people older. In some cultures like our it's the norm... the young girls get married off in their early teens to some 40+ guy because he'll provide for her. And he needs someone young to pop out his kids.

As for cougars - it's becoming quite the fetish among some guys, landing a 'cougar' and identifying a 'cougar'. But to me (apart from Demi Moore or Halimo Goobaad) the cougar thing seems too much like a novelty.

From a sociological point of view it makes sense (age gaps). Younger women go for older men because they have life experience and are probably already established in their careers so they are seen as good providers. Older women go for younger men because they reach their sexual peak later in life and need the vitality of younger men to satisfy themselves.

What do all of you think about dramatic differences in age when it comes to romantic/marriage relationships? Do you find it morally iffy/gross, or are you all good with it?

 

[Alluring]

I don't care what some couple does with their life, as long as they are both legally adults.

I'm somewhat wary of grooming though, many older people groom kids until they are finally or barely legal to take advantage of them.

 

[Manafesto]

I don't care what some couple does with their life, as long as they are both legally adults.

I'm somewhat wary of grooming though, many older people groom kids until they are finally or barely legal to take advantage of them.

An 18 year old that is being taken advantage of gotta to be dumb as rock, they are free to plull the plug if they are not happy with the arrangement, we liven in the West and no such thing happens here unless one is back home.

 

[Manafesto]

@Alluring

I dated a 24 year old when I was 17, and although I was mature for my age she tried to treat me like a child. It lasted 1 1/2 years.

When I left her, I got with a girl who was 22 (I was 19), and even with that slight age difference SHE tried to act like my mom. It lasted a month shy of 2 years and resulted in an adorable breakup.

Now, for the past year, I've been with a girl who is a year and 2 months younger than me, and she's treated me the best, been the most mature, and she has been great to my son.

I think it's just all based on the couple's compatibility. I started out with 2 females older than me and ended up with something amazing just by trial and error.

7 years is the oldest from me that I've dated, and I've slept with a women who was 20 years older than me. I think sexual relationships are a bit different mostly because it's just "Hey let's get off and not talk for a while" instead of having to learn about each other.

One of my doctors is 40 and married to a 25 year old, and they're a great couple who love each other a lot, have a kid together (he has 4 from a previous marriage), and get along very well. Other than them, I've never seen extreme age gaps work, but I'd never judge a couple who had a large age difference automatically.

 

[Alluring]

@Alluring

I dated a 24 year old when I was 17, and although I was mature for my age she tried to treat me like a child. It lasted 1 1/2 years.

When I left her, I got with a girl who was 22 (I was 19), and even with that slight age difference SHE tried to act like my mom. It lasted a month shy of 2 years and resulted in an adorable breakup.

Now, for the past year, I've been with a girl who is a year and 2 months younger than me, and she's treated me the best, been the most mature, and she has been great to my son.

I think it's just all based on the couple's compatibility. I started out with 2 females older than me and ended up with something amazing just by trial and error.

7 years is the oldest from me that I've dated, and I've slept with a women who was 20 years older than me. I think sexual relationships are a bit different mostly because it's just "Hey let's get off and not talk for a while" instead of having to learn about each other.

One of my doctors is 40 and married to a 25 year old, and they're a great couple who love each other a lot, have a kid together (he has 4 from a previous marriage), and get along very well. Other than them, I've never seen extreme age gaps work, but I'd never judge a couple who had a large age difference automatically.

Couples with large age gaps tend to have little in common, that's why they are so rare. And if they do exist, it tends to be a trophy gf/bf to a rich man/woman.

 

[Sumaaya]

@Alluring

I dated a 24 year old when I was 17, and although I was mature for my age she tried to treat me like a child. It lasted 1 1/2 years.

When I left her, I got with a girl who was 22 (I was 19), and even with that slight age difference SHE tried to act like my mom. It lasted a month shy of 2 years and resulted in an adorable breakup.

Now, for the past year, I've been with a girl who is a year and 2 months younger than me, and she's treated me the best, been the most mature, and she has been great to my son.

I think it's just all based on the couple's compatibility. I started out with 2 females older than me and ended up with something amazing just by trial and error.

7 years is the oldest from me that I've dated, and I've slept with a women who was 20 years older than me. I think sexual relationships are a bit different mostly because it's just "Hey let's get off and not talk for a while" instead of having to learn about each other.

One of my doctors is 40 and married to a 25 year old, and they're a great couple who love each other a lot, have a kid together (he has 4 from a previous marriage), and get along very well. Other than them, I've never seen extreme age gaps work, but I'd never judge a couple who had a large age difference automatically.

I would say age is just a number but then again you are afartan jir asaasaqay so yeah there you have it

 

[Manafesto]

I would say age is just a number but then again you are afartan jir asaasaqay so no

I am only 32 years old and even posted my picture on here plenty of times, you wouldn't think I am 25 even yet alone 30s or 40, don't hate me huuno if was able to afford to marry at a young age and was pooping kids left to right while you were getting spoon-fed with a Canbuulo by your parents in section 8 housing and look in your 40s.

 

[Sumaaya]

I am only 32 years old and even posted my picture on here plenty of times, you wouldn't think I am 25 even yet alone 30s or 40, don't hate me huuno if was able to afford to marry at a young age and was pooping kids left to right while you were getting spoon-fed with a Canbuulo by your parents in section 8 housing and look in your 40s.

Hadda nin tahay hada sawirkaaga meesha soo dhig, faanka naga daa ee

 

[Basra]

I think at least we should have the basics covered,



Younger Xaliimo, Older Farah.


The reverse can work if both older Xaliimo and younger Farah are Religious

 

[Sumaaya]

I would prefer a man who is 10 years older than me, definitely not one my age or even worse, younger

 

[Manafesto]

Hadda nin tahay hada sawirkaaga meesha soo dhig, faanka naga daa ee

Abaayo do you promise not to drool over my picture?

To be honest I am already dealing with Halimos stalking me and don't want more fans.

 

[Sumaaya]

Abaayo do you promise not to drool over my picture?

To be honest I am already dealing with Halimos stalking me and don't want more fans.

I don't know about your looks but you have as much personality as a wet wipe

 

[adventurequestworlds1.0.2]

A lot of people would argue against it due to the difference in life experience (among other things), but I think that's rather invalid seeing as everyone has different experiences. Saying an 18 year old shouldn't date a 34 year old due to life experience is like saying someone from the country shouldn't date someone from the city 'cause they've had 'very different lives'.

Anyway, at 18 you're legally an adult. People's approval or disapproval doesn't matter.

I've always been of the opinion that anything of a relationship or sexual nature is okay as long as it's between consenting adults. I don't give a shit if it's kinky S&M bedroom play or just a difference in age, if it's legal it's legal.

Do you think this opinion should also apply to even more dramatic differences (i.e. 18 and 80)? Or am I just wrong from the start?

All couple-related stuff depends on the couple I think. Not two couples will be the same. These days it's becoming common again for people to be in relationships/ date people older. In some cultures like our it's the norm... the young girls get married off in their early teens to some 40+ guy because he'll provide for her. And he needs someone young to pop out his kids.

As for cougars - it's becoming quite the fetish among some guys, landing a 'cougar' and identifying a 'cougar'. But to me (apart from Demi Moore or Halimo Goobaad) the cougar thing seems too much like a novelty.

From a sociological point of view it makes sense (age gaps). Younger women go for older men because they have life experience and are probably already established in their careers so they are seen as good providers. Older women go for younger men because they reach their sexual peak later in life and need the vitality of younger men to satisfy themselves.

What do all of you think about dramatic differences in age when it comes to romantic/marriage relationships? Do you find it morally iffy/gross, or are you all good with it?

Some 18 year old dating a 34 year guy is not same as someone in country shouldn't date lol this sentence doesn't make sense
And it is true someone who is 34 old have mor experience more in life and adulthood and is more mature then the 18 year old
If I ever have kids whether it is boy or girl my kid will only marry same age partner or or year older or 2 older then my kid tht is the limit for me

 

[Villainess]

Couples with large age gaps tend to have little in common, that's why they are so rare. And if they do exist, it tends to be a trophy gf/bf to a rich man/woman.

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[adventurequestworlds1.0.2]

An 18 year old that is being taken advantage of gotta to be dumb as rock, they are free to plull the plug if they are not happy with the arrangement, we liven in the West and no such thing happens here unless one is back home.

Tht is till kid and is reaching adulthood a 18 year old I not adult yet he or she still developing to adult
While 34 year old is fully adult and much more matured

 

[Alluring]

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Meh, they have a point. It’s weird when you date barely legal adults every single time.

 

[Nak Muay]

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The opinions of dumb whöres with dirty bedrooms aren't really valid outside of social media though

 

[Villainess]

Blame it on your pedophile Nabi Muhamed for normalizing marrying girls young as 9.

Warya I know you like to troll about Islam but there is a limit. Stop crossing the line. This is so disrespectful. What's wrong with you? You claim to be muslim one day and say shit like this the next. Not funny

 

[Abdisamad]

I would say age is just a number but then again you are afartan jir asaasaqay so yeah there you have it

Wait aren't you supposed to be a new user.. How do you know his age

 

[Sumaaya]

Wait aren't you supposed to be a new user.. How do you know his age

He said he got his first ever mobile phone in 1990