Poll says Somali women are the ones who fan the flame of tribalism in Somalia.

[𐒁𐒚𐒒𐒂𐒘𐒂𐒗 𐒎𐒚𐒗𐒗𐒒]

I understand abayo , of course i have a father, a family and a culture. but my qabil is not mine. i do not feel any overwhelming connection to my name or my abtirsi, its just a long line of men in my family. no complaints there, that’s how last names work in Islam and our culture. i simply don’t find that it represents me or my mother and grandmothers. so I don’t spend time arguing over qabil or repping something that i do not care for

I get what you mean about feeling more connected to the maternal line. I share that feeling and sentiment. As for the rest sis, we'll talk another time inshaAllah, without sexist eyes watching us.