Non muslim white dude in love with muslim hijab wearing (somali) girl.

[Genie]

Turns out he reveals later that the girl is Somali lol!
See sometimes its the caadans doing the chasing not everyday Somali girls are trash ... this post is both funny and intriguing she seemed like nice religious Somali girl. Some even advised him to convert for her is it that rare to find a nice woman these days?? huh? interesting? I must be worth a lot more then i thought might have to increase my mehr.




Follow up

 

[Yahya Liban-Lewis]

Disgusting.

He just wants to smash.

 

[dr.leorio]

I like the story but you're not supposed to put yourself in a position where feelings can overcome reason especially when its a non-Muslim guy you cannot marry anyway. It's a pure lose-lose situation because even if he converts to be with her, that man will only hold onto the Deen long enough to get in her pants until the loveydovey honey moon stage is over. (which of course will eventually happen) I don't particularity trust reverts in that sense because of personal experience with a relative of mine. And even if she continues the relationship without him being Muslim that's a whole lot of sinning ahead.

Even as a Muslim guy living in the west, I've always gotta set my boundaries beforehand and never let myself get caught up in some feelings. Feelings are fickle and love never lasts. That's why marriage is a contract and love+feelings are only 1 part of it. Either way, I hope those two figure it out IsA.

 

[star]

i really really need to comment on this! being as how i am a somali/canadian hijabi female lol ( not this girl) BUT the major thing i wanted to tell you is not to honestly worry about the family at this point. because if you are serious about her and care for her then the family will stand by you ( somalis are big on mixed marriages) but at this point its not even about marriage. be honest with her about how you feel. and since you have mentioned going out with her and hugging having already taken place, my somali instincts tell me she would probably date you on some level IF she has feelings for you. just because someone is a hijabi doesn't mean they are strict followers of the religion. just be open to understand that you might not get from her what you would get from a usual relationship...and TAKE IT SLOW!!! show he that you really care for her and are serious because then it would be worth it..you know what i mean? but i promise you its not as scary as most people think it is....esply if they are somalis...the majority of the youth date...even the hijabis!! (but not in the traditional way).i hope this helps you and feel free to msg me if you need any more advice.

You just knoww there's gonna be a comment like this

 

[Yahya Liban-Lewis]

You just knoww there'd be a comment like this

"Az long az he muzlim, you gud!"

 

[XamarCade]

You just knoww there's gonna be a comment like this

It doesn't take much to amuse them anymore, u just have to say "hi" and they'll be jumping of the wall.

 

[paramedic]

Never ever convert for a person and not Allah. I've heard of stories where the guy converts for the girl but leaves after a while, ditching his wife and kids for the bacon or bc he can't stand being disowned by his parents.

 

[Coulombs law]

Going on dinner dates, festivals, group trips with the opposite gender is obviously impermissible. Most religious Somali girls don't do stuff like that...

Pretty sure she isn't religious and just wants the guy to convert to avoid getting rebuked by her parents.

 

[star]

"Az long az he muzlim, you gud!"

As long as he's muslim, indeed brother. It's like such a blessing that like our parents are soooo like accepting as well. Us Somalis are like verrry open to interracial relationships mashaallah.

 

[Yahya Liban-Lewis]

It doesn't take much to amuse them anymore, u just have to say "hi" and they'll be jumping of the wall.

Exactly, "OMG, Mitchell looked at me, OMG my heart is melting "

Never ever convert for a person and not Allah. I've heard of stories where the guy converts for the girl but leaves after a while, ditching his wife and kids for the bacon or bc he can't stand being disowned by his parents.

It never ends well. Gaalos been drinking, fukking, smoking, since they were 16, they won't give that up for some girl they "love". They will be going back to they're old lifestyle in three months time. After they're bored smashing the naive girl, they pack up they're bags and send a text telling the girl "Look, it isn't working out, it was nice getting to know you "

It's just something on they're bucket list "get with a Muslim girl".

 

[Genie]

Going on dinner dates, festivals, group trips with the opposite gender is obviously impermissible. Most religious Somali girls don't do stuff like that...

Pretty sure she isn't religious and just wants the guy to convert to avoid getting rebuked by her parents.

hmmm, never thought of that part... good point.

 

[paramedic]

. She said that the only way this would work is if I accepted Islam on my own and not because I would gain her as a 'prize'.

Also the comments are very rational for Reddit. They're all telling him to seriously consider converting if he's only doing it for her. The entire thing on his side was done very tastefully.

She shouldn't have been hanging around him to the point where he fell in love w her but at least she's telling him to convert for Allah as well.

 

[Vision]

she seemed like nice religious Somali girl.

First off, she dresses pretty 'western', she is funny (even has crude humor at times), and can hang with the fellas without it being awkward or uncomfortable (my friends think she's great). We've spent a lot of time together over the years (we go to the movies, festivals, grab dinner, go on group trips with friends)




We met up last night and were having a casual dinner at my place



Before I could say any more she took my hand

 

[Zeus]

If you convert for a woman, you're a .

If you ask for girl advice on reddit, you're an even bigger .


ath long ath he ith muthlim

 

[Ricespot]

White sexpats want Somali girls now, the value of you Xaarlimos decreases by the day. Yall ganna end up like them asian hoes that let white guys disrespected them.

 

[Mohamud]

bruh in most of these instances it's the white guy chasing the somali girl

i highly doubt they make the first move. no woman ever has to.

I like the story but you're not supposed to put yourself in a position where feelings can overcome reason especially when its a non-Muslim guy you cannot marry anyway. It's a pure lose-lose situation because even if he converts to be with her, that man will only hold onto the Deen long enough to get in her pants until the loveydovey honey moon stage is over. (which of course will eventually happen) I don't particularity trust reverts in that sense because of personal experience with a relative of mine. And even if she continues the relationship without him being Muslim that's a whole lot of sinning ahead.

Even as a Muslim guy living in the west, I've always gotta set my boundaries beforehand and never let myself get caught up in some feelings. Feelings are fickle and love never lasts. That's why marriage is a contract and love+feelings are only 1 part of it. Either way, I hope those two figure it out IsA.

Somali men need to understand this as well. In the new age with temptation at every corner you really should avoid marrying a woman who does not hail from a Muslim background. I have seen the product; confused children unsure of what path to take.

Now a revert is different than someone who converts solely for their spouse or maintain their . The issues avove is more for men who seek relationships with non Muslim women. The end product as of today is horrifying.

 

[Genie]

so.....
am i missing something .....
my point still stands....

 

[Vision]

so.....
am i missing something .....
my point still stands....

Its just i dont know many religious girls that do the things i quoted

 

[dr.leorio]

bruh in most of these instances it's the white guy chasing the somali girl

i highly doubt they make the first move. no woman ever has to.


Somali men need to understand this as well. In the new age with temptation at every corner you really should avoid marrying a woman who does not hail from a Muslim background. I have seen the product; confused children unsure of what path to take.

Now a revert is different than someone who converts solely for their spouse or maintain their . The issues avove is more for men who seek relationships with non Muslim women. The end product as of today is horrifying.

You're right mate, anyone that chooses Islam for another human being is not only an idiot but obviously not really a Muslim. You have to do it for the right reasons.

I know a few guys that pursued non-Muslim ladies and they always ended up emotionally and financially bankrupt after the lady was done with them. These guys become damaged goods for the unsuspecting Xalimo they eventually run back to once they've learned their lesson. Why even consider a non-Somali anyway let alone a non-Muslim? If you truly love your parents, culture, and who you are as a Somali, you wouldn't even think about outside marriage! Wallahi it baffles me to this day, but I'm guessing not every Somali is proud of who they are like I am and I find that really sad

 

[Yahya Liban-Lewis]

You're right mate, anyone that chooses Islam for another human being is not only an idiot but obviously not really a Muslim. You have to do it for the right reasons.

I know a few guys that pursued non-Muslim ladies and they always ended up emotionally and financially bankrupt after the lady was done with them. These guys become damaged goods for the unsuspecting Xalimo they eventually run back to once they've learned their lesson. Why even consider a non-Somali anyway let alone a non-Muslim? If you truly love your parents, culture, and who you are as a Somali, you wouldn't even think about outside marriage! Wallahi it baffles me to this day, but I'm guessing not every Somali is proud of who they are like I am and I find that really sad

Those girls usually have self-esteem and confidence issues, and men pick up on it quickly. If they know a girl isn't confident with herself, they will pounce like a lion pouncing on the back of a water buffalo.

This guys trying to smash but he doesn't want to be Muslim in order to smash. He's trying to find a shortcut.