My female cousin invited me to her house to take care of my neice

[Calmone20]

I went there. I cleaned the house,entertained her neice and took her neice out,but she insults me and is rude to me. She also spoke about me behind my back. This is someone I trusted and loved.

 

[Xaruun]

The niece was violating you behind your back? Peak.

 

[Calmone20]

The niece was violating you behind your back? Peak.

My female cousin who's 12 years older than me.

 

[Xaruun]

My female cousin who's 12 years older than me.

Lol. Next time she calls you, bring it up and cuss her out.

 

[Calmone20]

Lol. Next time she calls you, bring it up and cuss her out.

I feel unappreciated. I came all the way to her house,yet she treats me like this?! Insane.

 

[Shimbiris]

I feel unappreciated. I came all the way to her house,yet she treats me like this?! Insane.

What was she saying about you?

 

[Calmone20]

What was she saying about you?

Saying how I don't entertain her neice (who's also my neice) when I do.

 

[Shimbiris]

Saying how I don't entertain her neice (who's also my neice) when I do.

That's absurd. Just don't talk to her anymore or do her favors. If you do her favors then just do them and expect no conversation or interaction after. People like that don't deserve a reply other than being ignored, abaayo.

 

[sagegreen]

I feel unappreciated. I came to her house, yet she treats me like this?! Insane.

You should not entertain such a person. You came all the way to help her out and she treated you like this? Sis be more assertive, please. People will walk over you

 

[TekNiKo]

Somali abaal maleh I learned that along time ago one dude I lent 200 dollars started arguing with me after 5 months of not getting it back. They are ungrateful people.

 

[Onyxbrainster]

Don’t get offended, but sis why do you keep tolerating disrespect and shit. I feel so bad for you reading your posts. You are out here cleaning and taking care of your cousin’s kid when you are not responsible for that. Set boundaries with people. I know it’s hard as shit as Somalis, but still your posts are a cry for help. You deserve a lot better!

 

[SOULSEARCHING]

Tell her lacaag isee if you want full entertainment shiddddd

 

[xoxoboredgirl]

Start to put yourself first, I can tell you’re a genuine person. Don’t dwell on it, actually now you’ve seen her true colours and know she’s a snake. Then you don’t owe her anything moving forwards, family or not.

she’s definitely jealous of you. I would say cut her off, but the only thing is you may not get to see your niece
Only forgive her if she sincerely apologises and her actions back this up

 

[Onyxbrainster]

Also it’s very ceeb that you are out here cleaning your cousin’s house. I have never in my life babysitted someone’s kids and was cleaning around the place. Maybe tidy up out of respect, but cleaning when you are a guest and not this person’s sibling is weird. Maybe it’s just me tho

 

[Based]

You as a grown ass man cleaned and took care of your female COUSIN'S child? that's so ceeb does she not respect you? I'd feel offended if a cousin reached out to me with that kind of bullshit

 

[idc]

I went there. I cleaned the house,entertained her neice and took her neice out,but she insults me and is rude to me. She also spoke about me behind my back. This is someone I trusted and loved.

you need to stop coming off as a pushover you're being way too nice to people who don't deserve your kindness. treat others how they deserved to be treated. she's ungrateful you did this all for free yet she still wants to complain.

 

[Calmone20]

She apologised to me.

 

[idc]

She apologised to me.

Just because someone apologises does not mean they are actually going to change or recognise their problematic ways. yeah i agree with what other users are saying you should set your boundaries