Is marrying a Xaalimo/Faarax an obligation?

[Garaad Darawiish]

I am one of the few people who believe people should marry whoever they please regardless of ethnicity or culture. I see it as immature when a Faarax is blabbering about a random xalimo who chooses to marry an Ajnabi. When you ask these Faaraxs why do you care if a random xalimo you will never meet marries out, they typically respond with the puerile argument' Somalis are a patriarchal society' which is a euphemism for 'The child will have no qabiil'.

Now don't get things wrong here, i don't intend on marrying an ajnabi at the moment but who is to say my attitudes will not change as time progresses. However, somalis(both males and females should have the right to choose who they want to marry without the ever-present fear of community backlash). Live and Let Live.



Xaalimos also need to stop with the death stares, Faarax are always subject to.

 

[Transparent]

Bruh I really don't care too much,I personally want to marry a xalimo for the following reasons:

1. They are very beautiful
2. I love my people
3. I love my culture
4. I want my progeny to speak the Somali language
5. I want my kids to be proud of who they are and not have an identity crisis.
6. Keep my momma happy(I once mentioned to my mom that I may marry an ajinabi and she totally flipped)
7. Preserve the banu hashim/cushtic lineage
8. And to enjoy my favourite Somali dishes.
9. Our families will be able to relate and it would be a natural interaction as opposed to the awkwardness with an ajinabi family.

These are the main reasons and to summarise it,marrying an ajinabi is hard work.Nobody has time to attempt to learn a foreign language and intergrating both families is hard work.Keep it easy and stick to our precious xalimos.On a real,I personally don't care if a xalimo Marries out,she replaceable,there's plenty where she came from.

 

[Transparent]

And have you seen some of the dimes we have out here

 

[Garaad Darawiish]

Bruh I really don't care too much,I personally want to marry a xalimo for the following reasons:

1. They are very beautiful
2. I love my people
3. I love my culture
4. I want my progeny to speak the Somali language
5. I want my kids to be proud of who they are and not have an identity crisis.
6. Keep my momma happy(I once mentioned to my mom that I may marry an ajinabi and she totally flipped)
7. Preserve the banu hashim/cushtic lineage
8. And to enjoy my favourite my favourite Somali dishes.
9. Our families will be able to relate and it would be a natural interaction as opposed to the awkwardness with an ajinabi family.

These are the main reasons and to summarise it,marrying an ajinabi is hard work.Nobody has time to attempt to learn a foreign language and intergrating both families is hard work.Keep it easy and stick to our precious xalimos.On a real,I personally don't care if a xalimo Marries out,she replaceable,there's plenty where she came from.

I agree with the points you raised, and i did mention that i don't plan on marrying an ajnabi as of now but times change, and so do attitudes. However, Ajnabi-somali marriages are more successful than somali-somali marriages in the west.

 

[Transparent]

I agree with the points you raised, and i did mention that i don't plan on marrying an ajnabi as of now but times change, and so do attitudes. However, Ajnabi-somali marriages are more successful than somali-somali marriages in the west.

In some cases yes,but the repercussions of having a divorce with an ajinabi is way worse than one with a Somali,that should be considered

 

[Garaad Darawiish]

In some cases yes,but the repercussions of having a divorce with an ajinabi is way worse than one with a Somali,that should be considered

Divorce is rampant in the somali community because of in-laws tampering and interfering with the couple, coupled with the whole qabiil feud that can unravel at any given moment. All in all, it becomes a mess for both parties with no major upside. On the other hand, Somali-Ajbaabi relationships tend to be more successful because of the mutual respect that is expected from both sides.

 

[KULTA]

Bruh I really don't care too much,I personally want to marry a xalimo for the following reasons:

1. They are very beautiful
2. I love my people
3. I love my culture
4. I want my progeny to speak the Somali language
5. I want my kids to be proud of who they are and not have an identity crisis.
6. Keep my momma happy(I once mentioned to my mom that I may marry an ajinabi and she totally flipped)
7. Preserve the banu hashim/cushtic lineage
8. And to enjoy my favourite Somali dishes.
9. Our families will be able to relate and it would be a natural interaction as opposed to the awkwardness with an ajinabi family.

These are the main reasons and to summarise it,marrying an ajinabi is hard work.Nobody has time to attempt to learn a foreign language and intergrating both families is hard work.Keep it easy and stick to our precious xalimos.On a real,I personally don't care if a xalimo Marries out,she replaceable,there's plenty where she came from.

You're a very wise you man

 

[TSP]

Marrying a somali girl is just the smart choice to make period

I'm not going to play in a rigged game against ethnic men when I see one of my own settling for a heartbeat

 

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Yes

 

[Garaad Darawiish]

Yes

Troll.

 

[nadia]

Its ok if a somali man marries out because his children will technically still be somali and usually men dominate the household. whereas if it was the otherway round well you know the answer lol. Although people have the right to marry whomever they will its best if people marry within their own ethnic groups since the mixed children will most certainly marry out further confusing the generation imagine seeing a somali/bajan.romanian/thai offsprings com'on lol.

 

[Garaad Darawiish]

Its ok if a somali man marries out because his children will technically still be somali and usually men dominate the household. whereas if it was the otherway round well you know the answer lol. Although people have the right to marry whomever they will its best if people marry within their own ethnic groups since the mixed children will most certainly marry out further confusing the generation imagine seeing a somali/bajan.romanian/thai offsprings com'on lol.

Live and let live. If thats what they want, who are we to say the cant.

 

[nadia]

Live and let live. If thats what they want, who are we to say the cant.

Did you read what i said? people have the right to marry whoever they want but its BEST if people marry within their own ethnic group. Ive noticed is always Somalis that encourage marrying out lol smh

 

[Garaad Darawiish]

Did you read what i said? people have the right to marry whoever they want but its BEST if people marry within their own ethnic group. Ive noticed is always Somalis that encourage marrying out lol smh

My bad then.