How are your compliments truly perceived?

[Manafesto]

I know this is going to be hard to swallow but in my day to day life, I'm a very nice happy go lucky guy. I hold doors open for anyone, I smile at strangers, I say, "Thank you" and "Please", I address people as Sir or Ma'am. I'm an overall nice person. Truly.

So I don't think anything of giving compliments to men or women. I don't give out compliments to just anyone for anything. It is usually something that catches my eye or I notice out of the ordinary. If I see someone that has incredibly beautiful eyes, I will let them know I think they have gorgeous eyes. If they have a beautiful smile, I speak up. If the perfume or cologne they are wearing smells good to me, I say something. If someone dresses up a little more than they usually do and they look pretty damn nice, I will let them know I noticed.

However, not everyone can accept a compliment at face value. Some people think you have a motive or there is a hidden meaning behind everything you say. For example, today I found out that because I complimented one of my female co-workers on the beauty of her eyes, our male co-worker interpreted it as me having the "hots" for the girl.

He didn't mention it to me or around me but I was informed of it today in casual conversation with said female co-worker and another. It made me laugh because I have been very successful in not letting these people get to know me well at all. (This does have it benefits I assure you.)

It is saddening though that people take the offensive toward an innocent genuine statement. Do you take a compliment at face value or do you look for possible hidden motives that person may have?

 

[Chun Li]

I completely agree with you. If I compliment someone & they start explaining themselves as to why they look “normal” or “average”, I’ll think they’re insecure or maybe they think I have a hidden agenda.

When someone compliments me, I receive it & say thank you

 

[Manafesto]

I completely agree with you. If I compliment someone & they start explaining themselves as to why they look “normal” or “average”, I’ll think they’re insecure or maybe they think I have a hidden agenda.

When someone compliments me, I receive it & say thank you ❤

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I'mpretty much the same way as you. People tend not to take anything nice very well. I can't remember the last time someone told me thank you or please. I've told women they look beautiful before and they kind of look at me like "like I would give you the time of day." So I just think to myself (and occasionally verbalize) "You're welcome b1tch."

I'm getting kind of beat down with being nice to people. I'm learning most folks don't deserve it.

 

[Sumaaya]

This is the sweetest, positive thread I think you've created so far, hmmm! @Manafesto The gent!

 

[Sumaaya]

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I'mpretty much the same way as you. People tend not to take anything nice very well. I can't remember the last time someone told me thank you or please. I've told women they look beautiful before and they kind of look at me like "like I would give you the time of day." So I just think to myself (and occasionally verbalize) "You're welcome b1tch."

I'm getting kind of beat down with being nice to people. I'm learning most folks don't deserve it.

Awwww! Kaalay I will give you the time of day huuno macaane ee hoorta lacagta inoo soo shaqee!

 

[Chun Li]

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I'mpretty much the same way as you. People tend not to take anything nice very well. I can't remember the last time someone told me thank you or please. I've told women they look beautiful before and they kind of look at me like "like I would give you the time of day." So I just think to myself (and occasionally verbalize) "You're welcome b1tch."

I'm getting kind of beat down with being nice to people. I'm learning most folks don't deserve it.

Awww, you poor thing. You’re not supposed to compliment everyone. I only start complimenting them once I know they’re genuine, establish a bond with them & gain their trust. If there are any exceptions, I will tell it how it is & their reaction is down to them.

You shouldn’t be the source of an ego boost for these people. Some just keep others like you around to feel uplifted. If they can’t say please & thank you, well then their hearts are faulty.

 

[Bronco]

Depends on the compliment.

If it's anything along the lines of being 'nice', I completely ignore it. It is the most non-compliment compliment. To me at that point you're basically a compliment wh*re just throwing sum at anybody.

 

[Amazonian]

Calling all students who need essays written

Holla atcha boy @Manafesto he'll have 10 paragraphs completed for you in no time

 

[Abdisamad]

Awwww! Kaalay I will give you the time of day huuno macaane ee hoorta lacagta inoo soo shaqee!

how come every guy is your macaane.. Yaab badanaa.

 

[Manafesto]

Awww, you poor thing. You’re not supposed to compliment everyone. I only start complimenting them once I know they’re genuine, establish a bond with them & gain their trust. If there are any exceptions, I will tell it how it is & their reaction is down to them.

You shouldn’t be the source of an ego boost for these people. Some just keep others like you around to feel uplifted. If they can’t say please & thank you, well then their hearts are faulty.

Well,I had my ups and downs with this when I was a teen. I was an idiot, yes, and I didn't know how to act around women, which led me to many of these situations and eventually I had to learn how to handle them.

I never felt really comfortable with compliments; it feels great for self-esteem actually, but I don't know what to do when someone tells me one.

When I compliment someone I am very specific about it. For example, "hey, don't think I'm hitting on you or anything like that, but your eyes are amazing, I'd never seen eyes with colors like that" It works, mostly. Still I don't do it with people I've just met.

Females/Males tend to think that every good thing you tell them MIGHT be a sexual drive,it's hard for some of us to tell apart if you are just being nice or if you like them or something, specially if we just met.

 

[Abdisamad]

Calling all students who need essays written

Holla atcha boy @Manafesto he'll have 10 paragraphs completed for you in no time

He can make some serious money on these lazy ass students

 

[BobSmoke]

I know this is going to be hard to swallow but in my day to day life, I'm a very nice happy go lucky guy. I hold doors open for anyone, I smile at strangers, I say, "Thank you" and "Please", I address people as Sir or Ma'am. I'm an overall nice person. Truly.

So I don't think anything of giving compliments to men or women. I don't give out compliments to just anyone for anything. It is usually something that catches my eye or I notice out of the ordinary. If I see someone that has incredibly beautiful eyes, I will let them know I think they have gorgeous eyes. If they have a beautiful smile, I speak up. If the perfume or cologne they are wearing smells good to me, I say something. If someone dresses up a little more than they usually do and they look pretty damn nice, I will let them know I noticed.

However, not everyone can accept a compliment at face value. Some people think you have a motive or there is a hidden meaning behind everything you say. For example, today I found out that because I complimented one of my female co-workers on the beauty of her eyes, our male co-worker interpreted it as me having the "hots" for the girl.

He didn't mention it to me or around me but I was informed of it today in casual conversation with said female co-worker and another. It made me laugh because I have been very successful in not letting these people get to know me well at all. (This does have it benefits I assure you.)

It is saddening though that people take the offensive toward an innocent genuine statement. Do you take a compliment at face value or do you look for possible hidden motives that person may have?

It's weird but I understand why people don't take compliments too serious or assume something else.

Personally, I appreciate every compliment even though I kinda feel weird receiving it hearing from someone else. I prefer to compliment myself and I like to give genuine compliments to people on things that people don't really notice about them

 

[Sumaaya]

how come every guy is your macaane.. Yaab badanaa.

Huuno=walaal macaan/e= sweet, my sweet brother/sister. Don't be jealous my libaax, who else do I call libaax and qalbi apart from you? Lol shaydanka inaga naar

 

[486th President]

Whenever I finish my friend gets mad at me so I’m not very liked I guess

 

[Sumaaya]

Whenever I finish my friend gets mad at me so I’m not very liked I guess

That's because you probably tell your male friends they have a cute butt or something weird dee

 

[Nafiso Qalanjo]

Mashallah your moving past your usual bitter posting. Im loving this character development

 

[Abdisamad]

My reaction next time @Sumaaya calls me her libaax or qalbi

Huuno=walaal macaan/e= sweet, my sweet brother/sister. Don't be jealous my libaax, who else do I call libaax and qalbi apart from you? Lol shaydanka inaga naar

It's over final.. Finito.. You already had your chance and spoiled it

Ladies I'm sspot single again

 

[Chun Li]

Well,I had my ups and downs with this when I was a teen. I was an idiot, yes, and I didn't know how to act around women, which led me to many of these situations and eventually I had to learn how to handle them.

I never felt really comfortable with compliments; it feels great for self-esteem actually, but I don't know what to do when someone tells me one.

When I compliment someone I am very specific about it. For example, "hey, don't think I'm hitting on you or anything like that, but your eyes are amazing, I'd never seen eyes with colors like that" It works, mostly. Still I don't do it with people I've just met.

Females/Males tend to think that every good thing you tell them MIGHT be a sexual drive,it's hard for some of us to tell apart if you are just being nice or if you like them or something, specially if we just met.

What are the most common things you notice on people that you compliment?

 

[486th President]

Thay's because you probably tell your male friends they have a cute butt or something weird dee

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[Chun Li]

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Nah relax, you’re the bottom & they’re the top