Going over the top with compliments

[bluebird]

I tend to see that the women who go OTT with complimenting other women are the worst. Why do they go out of their way to compliment other women all the time when they are so hateful and bitter on the inside?

Also, I think a lot of these women have "internalized misogyny because they never treat men the way they treat other women. They will easily forgive a man but if its another lady they will hate on her forever

 

[GeKo]

It's funny when girls comment "Guurl, how you so beautiful" meanwhile she looks like a mini landwhale.
Those girls are pure xaasid and just want a duff to feel happier about themselves. :siilaanyolaugh:

internalized misogny lol, stop drinking that sjw kool aid. They're attracted to the man they're forgiving but feel nothing when they cut off the girl they dislike. When they're in a relationship especially, many women put up with alot of crap from men because the love blinds them that they normally wouldn't from another women.
Same happens with men, I know a guy that would never allow a guy to manipulate him the way he was manipulated by the girl he loved and accept that amount of shit, but it happens, all in the name of love and attraction .
Alot of guys are also naturally nicer/politer to women and put up with alot more from a woman than they would with other men, does that mean they have internalized misogny? No.

 

[Sophisticate]

I sparingly compliment. I want to come off as somewhat sincere and authentic by withholding praise that is surface level unless I really mean it. I also used to have a bias that Somali girls were beautiful in the 'face'. I figured we didn't need to be gassed up because it was stating the obvious. It wasn't until I came online that I saw the Xalimo thug mugshots. That shattered my belief that we are all dimes without makeup.

 

[bluebird]

Alot of guys are also naturally nicer/politer to women and put up with alot more from a woman than they would with other men, does that mean they have internalized misogny? No

Men forgive each other easily for small things. Some women will hate other women and not even be able to say why they do

Also i wasnt talking about relationships

 

[GeKo]

Men forgive each other easily for small things. Some women will hate other women and not even be able to say why they do

Then this is the nature of most women. I had a friend who was raised in an all girl's family so he had similar behaviors that are stereo typically for women eg gossiping, can't keep a secret etc.
We got into a little disagreement over trivial matters then he cut me off and hates me now, which isn't typical behavior of men.

 

[Desert Flower]

I sparingly compliment. I want to come off as somewhat sincere and authentic by withholding praise that is surface level unless I really mean it. I also used to have a bias that Somali girls were beautiful in the 'face'. I figured we didn't need to be gassed up because it was stating the obvious. It wasn't until I came online that I saw the Xalimo thug mugshots. That shattered my belief that we are all dimes without makeup.

Most Somali women that I see are beautiful, Masha'Allah. And like you, I give compliments when I sincerely mean it.

 

[Desert Flower]

But yeah, interesting observation.

As a woman, I think that it may be due to the fact that we're told that there are less good men than women, so if we see a "good" guy, we put up with his BS because, there isn't much better out there. Speaking in terms of relationships though.

Oh, lemme add also, to answer your question. I think it is low-key xaasidniimo b/c I have heard girls talk crap about a chick, only to turn around and smile at her face. It can also be a low self-esteem thing, which I think many girls have, unfortunately.

Another observation that I have seen is that truly pretty/beautiful girls do not get complimented that often. I think b/c many people think that she is so beautiful, she gets complimented all the time, or they may be jealous of her looks. Evil eye is real y'all.

 

[bluebird]

But yeah, interesting observation.

As a woman, I think that it may be due to the fact that we're told that there are less good men than women, so if we see a "good" guy, we put up with his BS because, there isn't much better out there. Speaking in terms of relationships though.

Oh, lemme add also, to answer your question. I think it is low-key xaasidniimo b/c I have heard girls talk crap about a chick, only to turn around and smile at her face. It can also be a low self-esteem thing, which I think many girls have, unfortunately.

Another observation that I have seen is that truly pretty/beautiful girls do not get complimented that often. I think b/c many people think that she is so beautiful, she gets complimented all the time, or they may be jealous of her looks. Evil eye is real y'all.

Youre right. They always compliment conventionally unattractive females. It seems insincere like a way to make themselves look better. If the fat ones lose weight, then they cant feel good about themselves in that regard.

Another fake thing they do is compliment artificial beauty like pounds of make up on the face or a wig or hair weave

Its stupid

 

[Desert Flower]

Youre right. They always compliment conventionally unattractive females. It seems insincere like a way to make themselves look better. If the fat ones lose weight, then they cant feel good about themselves in that regard.

Another fake thing they do is compliment artificial beauty like pounds of make up on the face or a wig or hair weave

Its stupid

Yeah. It takes a truly confident woman to compliment another beautiful woman.

I see that also, it reeks of insecurity.

It isn't even about weight - it can be clothes and skin colour too.

But yeah, you can't really believe what anyone says.

 

[emptyheartsflow]

I think girls tell other girls what they want to hear -- but obviously cheap compliments don't work or there wouldn't be any insecure girls left in the world.

Cheap compliments are just that, cheap.

 

[agnes]

On social media you see a girl visit every girl's page writing 'mashallah, you slay, 'gurll u killing this look', ''I cant' (with the crying smiley) ''How are you so perfect' ahh ohhh lool

It's nice to see girls big up one another but I doubt it's all sincere.

 

[Sophisticate]

Most Somali women that I see are beautiful, Masha'Allah. And like you, I give compliments when I sincerely mean it.

I agree, but for some reason, the Faraxs try to humble us with unflattering photos of female ex-cons.

Youre right. They always compliment conventionally unattractive females. It seems insincere like a way to make themselves look better. If the fat ones lose weight, then they cant feel good about themselves in that regard.

Another fake thing they do is compliment artificial beauty like pounds of make up on the face or a wig or hair weave

Its stupid

Beauty has a time limit. They should enjoy the attention while it lasts. At my age, I soak it up like a good moisturizer. Don't worry, in the future there will be retina monitors on eyes and you'll be able to see how many stares you got and objectively measure how many really "likey".