This is so true. This is seen as “the ideal daughter” with Somalis but people like this struggle in the real world. I struggled during nursing school because I wasn’t raised to be assertive or share my opinions. I think my instructors thought I was slow lmao, they gave me a hard time. I had to learn to speak my mind, the hard way.
I’m doing better now but I still find that I get anxious standing up to my parents especially my hooyo, she can be very mean and cruel with her words, and start habaaring you when you disagree with her.
I hope to move out in spring or summer 2024. I want to fully develop as an independent adult.
The damage some Somali parents have done to their daughters is unforgivable. They have screwed them over. You can clearly tell which ones grew up that way within just seconds of observing them. No eye contact, not capable of holding a conversation, look depressed and lifeless, no interests, and glued to their phones. It’s bone chilling to witness.
Im glad you’re freeing yourself from the shackles.