Does anybody else have family that don’t want them to marry young?

[empressjamila]

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[Trapmacalin]

That’s a first. My mother encourages me to get married young as well as my siblings. In your case, I think she’s saying it in a way like make sure your life is fully sorted and stable before you become committed to another human. But if it actually came to you wanting to get married young and you bring a respectful muslim (I’m guessing your somali parents want a Somali) somali man who has his head on straight, she’ll 100% be down for you to get married if the chance comes when your still young.

 

[Angelina]

I think she might have seen a lot of her peers marry early with hardly any qualifications and then got divorced thus plummeting their quality of their life. I'm assuming you're from a two parent household, so your hooyo probably thinks that the reason why it worked out for her is because she married later and therefore was able to make better decisions.

My advice would be sit her down and ask her why she thinks you're not ready for marriage. It might be a hard pill to swallow, but she might think you're not mature yet, or ready for the responsibilities of being wife or even mother.

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. OR she might be afraid that if you meet someone you'll give up education and work which was the norm for her generation. Remind her that things have changed and you can get to know people whilst building your life.

 

[Wakai]

Never heard of this but just talk to her and get your blessings

 

[Ladylike]

My family did not pressure me to marry early infact my father told me to stay away from men until i finish my school. That was the only time he said anything about marriage to me actually lol now looking back i am happy i never got married. I would have been struggling single mom with many kids if i did got married younger. Alxamdululah