Do Somali men usually experience fewer difficulties in intercultural marriages compared to Somali women?
- Thread starter Fobnimo Till I Dhimo
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Not really but Somali women don’t have problems with marrying outsiders while Somali men would probably chat to them but 100% not marry outsiders since they prefer their child to be 100% somali
You misunderstood the thread. What I meant to ask is whether both guys and girls have different experiences when they marry into a different culture. This includes how their in-laws and spouse treat them
Chaseyourdreamzz
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This all depends on what culture they marry into
Yh I did and that’s wrong in my part
. To be fair it’s hard to say
I would say xalimo has more difficulty for certain reason
I’ve heard few stories how xalimo married Pakistan men and normally the men is more dominated gender in the family so he forced his culture on xalimo to the point the xalimo had to file a divorce
Mostly
Some cultures can into mix with Somali culture and other cultures are too extreme like Arab and south Asian cultures
Chaseyourdreamzz
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Yeah marrying another East African should be a lot easier then somebody from halfway across the world
Daacad haddi aan u hadlo, I rarely come across Somali men complaining about their in laws or regretting marrying someone from a different background. lakin haddi aan si kale arinta u fiiriyo when you're the one taking the lead in the guur, things often go more smoothly.Especially when comparing the experiences of Somali men marrying someone from a different dhaqan with the experiences of Somali women who marry outsiders. In these cases, the dynamic is often different, as men typically have the autonomy to make decisions and set the tone for the relationship. Meanwhile, the Halimos marrying outside the dhaqan might find themselves adhering to and obeying their partners, which can create a distinct contrast in the overall relationship dynamics.
There are varied experiences. Nearly everyone here is either not married period or married to a Somali. You need to hear from the intercultural crowd to gain some perspective. Even then that's anecdotal.
Somali men are more easygoing and calm and likable than young modern Somali women who are usually depressed, manic, and have terrible attitudes. I never heard of a Somali guy who left his non Somali wife but we constantly hear of Somali women who is no longer with her non Somali husband.
Men in general have less problems from one marrying out of their community, and two, dealing with the aftermath if that marriage fails. Women are more scrutinized in every culture. dudes can bounce if shit goes south and it's like it never happened, but with women, they don't hear the end of it.
Somali men rarely marry outside their culture. It's usually Somali women that marry out. They don't experience any difficulties because they rarely marry out. Somali men who often struggle to find a spouse in the diaspora tend to go back to Somalia and get married.
Hotchick12
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Yes most of their kids are gaalo
Hotchick12
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That is bullshit more Somali men marry out
Odious Delirium
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Both somali women and men marry out at a similar rate. There is a gap of just a few percentages @Angelina has the stats. Its old stats tho but I would say they both still marry out at a similar rate and the vast majority of both genders marry other somalis.
Aegon
The Conqueror, King of all Westeros
Somali men use to marry out when they first came in the West as they were trying to get papers and citizenship, nowadays it’s more women who marry out, or at least are open to do it
You’re right but it’s @Elnino that has the stats. He created a thread.
Most Somalis marry other Somalis. Most Somalis prefer their fellow Somalis. Only a minority of men and women marry out. Hence this topic has been flogged to death. Let’s let it go. Even if more Somalis than before are marrying out, why would anyone be surprised? We live in a globalized world. Let’s respect each other’s decision and keep it moving in.
