Dealing with toxic male Somalis

Sorry just needed to vent. I’ve worked in two different Somali owned companies since last year. This has been my first time working with Somalis and my coworkers have been predominantly . One was an adult day care and the manager I had was extremely misogynistic. And this isn’t me throwing the term lightly. There were a group of young Somali guys who were my coworkers, all conventionally attractive however they all had such toxic views on women. I’m especially highlighting the attractive part because many of us think Somali incels are ugly. But the main perpetrator was the manager. He constantly enjoyed debating about topics pertaining to women and often his views were controversial. An example would be him not believeing in post partum depression despite claiming his own wife and mother suffered from it. This man also seemed like he had a crush on a teenager and made her uncomfortable all while his wife had just given birth and nearly died from childbirth. He also gave the women the most difficult jobs, all while giving us shorter breaks and the men had the easiest job and had longer breaks. He fired the women who challenged him, I remember us leaving in terrible terms because a few times I spoke up and I had no idea he was harbouring resentment until I left the job. He also mainly fired the women and whenever we would play games he would get physical with .

his other coworkers shared the same views as him, I remember once hearing them about us, calling us old and how many of us are not married.

I went to a warehouse job and the men there are just as terrible. Also, double standards is so prevalent, especially pertaining to marriage, including interracial marriage. There is so much support for men marrying outside their race but disdain towards the women who do. I’ve had Somali men use abuse as a justification for why a Somali woman shouldn’t marry outside her race as if Somali men can’t be abusive too. it seems like they only view Somali women as baby making machines where our only goal in life is to pump babies otherwise they will go ahead an marry a second wife. One man had the audacity to tell me I should have ten kids otherwise my husband will marry another woman.

I feel so jaded being around these men eurgh
 

Yaraye

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Dooyo

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Your first mistake was working at a Somali owned company. Why subjugate yourself to monkey business when you could work for/with civilized cadaans?
 
Sorry just needed to vent. I’ve worked in two different Somali owned companies since last year. This has been my first time working with Somalis and my coworkers have been predominantly . One was an adult day care and the manager I had was extremely misogynistic. And this isn’t me throwing the term lightly. There were a group of young Somali guys who were my coworkers, all conventionally attractive however they all had such toxic views on women. I’m especially highlighting the attractive part because many of us think Somali incels are ugly. But the main perpetrator was the manager. He constantly enjoyed debating about topics pertaining to women and often his views were controversial. An example would be him not believeing in post partum depression despite claiming his own wife and mother suffered from it. This man also seemed like he had a crush on a teenager and made her uncomfortable all while his wife had just given birth and nearly died from childbirth. He also gave the women the most difficult jobs, all while giving us shorter breaks and the men had the easiest job and had longer breaks. He fired the women who challenged him, I remember us leaving in terrible terms because a few times I spoke up and I had no idea he was harbouring resentment until I left the job. He also mainly fired the women and whenever we would play games he would get physical with .

his other coworkers shared the same views as him, I remember once hearing them about us, calling us old and how many of us are not married.

I went to a warehouse job and the men there are just as terrible. Also, double standards is so prevalent, especially pertaining to marriage, including interracial marriage. There is so much support for men marrying outside their race but disdain towards the women who do. I’ve had Somali men use abuse as a justification for why a Somali woman shouldn’t marry outside her race as if Somali men can’t be abusive too. it seems like they only view Somali women as baby making machines where our only goal in life is to pump babies otherwise they will go ahead an marry a second wife. One man had the audacity to tell me I should have ten kids otherwise my husband will marry another woman.

I feel so jaded being around these men eurgh
that acc mad you could probably report them for gender based discrimination
 

Sa_Male

Laba Gob Kii Beer Jilicsan Baa Jaba
Sorry just needed to vent. I’ve worked in two different Somali owned companies since last year. This has been my first time working with Somalis and my coworkers have been predominantly . One was an adult day care and the manager I had was extremely misogynistic. And this isn’t me throwing the term lightly. There were a group of young Somali guys who were my coworkers, all conventionally attractive however they all had such toxic views on women. I’m especially highlighting the attractive part because many of us think Somali incels are ugly. But the main perpetrator was the manager. He constantly enjoyed debating about topics pertaining to women and often his views were controversial. An example would be him not believeing in post partum depression despite claiming his own wife and mother suffered from it. This man also seemed like he had a crush on a teenager and made her uncomfortable all while his wife had just given birth and nearly died from childbirth. He also gave the women the most difficult jobs, all while giving us shorter breaks and the men had the easiest job and had longer breaks. He fired the women who challenged him, I remember us leaving in terrible terms because a few times I spoke up and I had no idea he was harbouring resentment until I left the job. He also mainly fired the women and whenever we would play games he would get physical with .

his other coworkers shared the same views as him, I remember once hearing them about us, calling us old and how many of us are not married.

I went to a warehouse job and the men there are just as terrible. Also, double standards is so prevalent, especially pertaining to marriage, including interracial marriage. There is so much support for men marrying outside their race but disdain towards the women who do. I’ve had Somali men use abuse as a justification for why a Somali woman shouldn’t marry outside her race as if Somali men can’t be abusive too. it seems like they only view Somali women as baby making machines where our only goal in life is to pump babies otherwise they will go ahead an marry a second wife. One man had the audacity to tell me I should have ten kids otherwise my husband will marry another woman.

I feel so jaded being around these men eurgh
Daamn, poor @Malab
 
Miskeen, you got stuck with a group of shitty human beings.
I work in the trades off and on, it’s usually in oil field and you sleep at camps there. It’s usually a 100% men, but this one time we had a Nigerian woman in our crew. In her own words it was the best project she ever worked. She was studying law atm, getting some sort of recertification, all she did was prepare safety meetings in morning, sort out small paper works and then she got to study 11 hours out of the 12hrs shift. Whenever it would get super busy she’d hop out on her own volition and help out.
Shitty people make or break your work experience.
 
I am sorry to hear you experienced that sis. Just like in this forum, we have those that are truly heinous, but there are a few gems in the huge pile of excrement.

On the bright side, now you can make sure no decent girl you know ends up with that qashin you met. These idiots forget that the world is very small, and we all seek references when settling down. Give them ALL the reference they deserve. In fact, tell your hooyo about these losers, to be precise, get their names and everything. Because one day, a hooyo even from another country/town may want to know and then she can give a heads up.
 
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Your first mistake was working at a Somali owned company. Why subjugate yourself to monkey business when you could work for/with civilized cadaans?

It's not that Cadaans are civilised, it's the fact that Western women fought hard to have laws passed, preventing these monsters from touching them or sexually harassing them in the work place. They are afraid of getting into trouble, it's not that they are naturally well-mannered.
 
It's not that Cadaans are civilised, it's the fact that Western women fought hard to have laws passed, preventing these monsters from touching them or sexually harassing them in the work place. They are afraid of getting into trouble, it's not that they are naturally well-mannered.
I work in the oil field atm, used to teach prior that.
Theres lots of truth in this. At the school I worked with everything was alright between male/female teachers.
However in the oil field, either they completely avoid/ignore women or they’re constantly vying for their attention and trying to flirt. It’s very rare to see an in between, even with the avoidance they gotta make sure they don’t outright ignore women or else they’d get problems with HR, but if the guy is like for example the best welder or the project is falling behind they’ll let A LOT of shit slide unfortunately that’s why it’s not uncommon for people to literally meet up in parking lot off site to throw hands. It happens more often than ppl realize
 
I am sorry to hear you experienced that sis. Just like in this forum, we have those that are truly heinous, but there are a few gems in the huge pile of excrement.

On the bright side, now you can make sure no decent girl you know ends up with that qashin you met. These idiots forget that the world is very small, and we all seek references when settling down. Give them ALL the reference they deserve. In fact, tell your hooyo about these losers, to be precise, get their names and everything. Because one day, a hooyo even from another country/town may want to know and then she can give a heads up.
Inshallah I will try to do that sis. But one of the men is married so it seems like he pursued her specifically because she’s miskeen and she’s also older than him. And I wonder if those girls will even listen because many of them were caught up by their looks and didn’t take the misogyny seriously.
 

Cambar

peace is the key
I've had to deal with those type of men, if you continue to stay quiet they will think your a stupid miskiin girl who can't fend for herself. And if you do something, you'll be seen as crazy but better off whooping their asses and being called a crazy women then allowing them to step on
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I've had to deal with those type of men, if you continue to stay quiet they will think your a stupid miskiin girl who can't fend for herself. And if you do something, you'll be seen as crazy but better off whooping their asses and being called a crazy women then allowing them to step on
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Tbh sis the first job I used to speak up constantly especially for the girls who were too shy to say anything. I didn’t know the manager was holding resentment inside him so my last day he unleashes on me which scared me because I remember him having crazy eyes
 

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