Arranged marriage & honor killing

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Benjamin

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I know that other immigrant communities have this problem, but I'm not sure if we have it.

Do we have this problem?

Would you accept arranged marriage?

I personally never heard about this problem in our community.
 

Malcolm X

The price of freedom is death
Honor killing - no.

Arranged marriage - sort of

I know a few who couldn't marry, they asked their parents for a help. It is rare though

Desi parents automatically search when their kid gets old enough
 
Somalis don't practice honor killing, in fact honor killing for us is killing the man that allures the girl not the girl.
 

Garaad Darawiish

Astra incliant sed non obligant
First and foremost, arranged marriages are common in many societies; some of it has to do with preserving "honour" and could result in henious crimes; such as honour killings ( I call it dishonour killings). That is common in the middle east and east asia.

In our culture so called honour killings is unheard of.

In the somali culture arranged marriages are conducted in the countryside and uncommon in towns. In the old days, a girl who said no to an arrange marriage was refered to as "Geesxir". In most cases there were some advantages. There is always a way out (most parents will cancel the arrange marriage if the daughter says no).

At the heart of arrange marriages are economic dependency. Once women are emancipated through work/property then it will disappear.


There is a difference between arranged and forced marriages
 

Jeesto

VIP
Honor killing - We don't have that, thank god
Arranged marriage - Sort of but it's not very common. In our culture the guy/girl can ask the parents for help if they have hard time finding a partner and can always say no to the marriage unlike ME & South Asian cultures.
 
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maestro

Cultural revolution
Honor killings are disgusting glad we don't have them. How can you kill your own daughter or son wtf! Only fucked up people with shit culture practice that bullshit.

Only way I'm gonna think of killing my child is extreme cases like if they betray me and murder the rest of the family in cold blood. Or if they become Hitler and genocide millions of innocent people.
 
Somalis don't practice honor killing, we're no Arabs, where did u get that from:what1:

Arranged marriage is NOT forced and usually set up to marry off cousins or closely related families.
 

Benjamin

någon :)
Somalis don't practice honor killing, we're no Arabs, where did u get that from:what1:

Arranged marriage is NOT forced and usually set up to marry off cousins or closely related families.
I was just reading an article about that, then I got curious if we had that problem.
 

Jeesto

VIP
Somalis don't practice honor killing, we're no Arabs, where did u get that from:what1:

Arranged marriage is NOT forced and usually set up to marry off cousins or closely related families.
But that's not how we do arranged marriages dee:tacky:
Cousin marriage is seen as ceeb(atleast were i'm from) and it rarely happens.
 
So only the man get persecuted for secret marriage?
I am not talking about marriage but the stories that I heard from my relatives. males of the girl victim (her cousins) will take revenge for her either by killing the guy or beating him. For example one time 4 tribal cousins had beat out guy Who send love letter to girl. Mind you they that they all were under 18. The girl had to stop going school and her family had married her off (it was scandalous behaviour ).
Other story, I heard it from my mum, per war in Somalia. This female employee wanted to take sick leave for couple of weeks, since she didn't know the procedures, her boss asked to pick the approval letter from his home and he raped her. Two of her cousins shot him.
 
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