Are you willing to send money to your father, his 2nd wife, and her kids in Somalia?

[Abdisamad]

If I could support and had the means to do so yes 100%

 

[Abdisamad]

@Yaraye

Regardless of what happened between your mom and father, your half siblings are still your own blood right? And your father well is still your father, those are your family and you should help with you can within your own capacity.

 

[Odious Delirium]

Wait @Yaraye this is a hypothetical right not your actual situation?

 

[Yaraye]

Why doesnt your father have an income
Of his own,he did start a new family right so what was his plan just hope for the best

This is not about my father. He doesn't have children in his remarriage, thank god

 

[Yaraye]

Wait @Yaraye this is a hypothetical right not your actual situation?

@Yaraye

Regardless of what happened between your mom and father, your half siblings are still your own blood right? And your father well is still your father, those are your family and you should help with you can within your own capacity.

@Yaraye

In all seriousness, I can imagine you’re irritated and a bit hurt, but I’d use that opportunity to get more ajr from Allah. Just do it for the sake of Allah and you’ll be rewarded in the Dunya and Akhira.

This is not my situation. I've heard from many people that their father that used to be so present in their lives when they were young, got married to another woman. In some of these stories their mother got divorced or stays but the relationship between them got cold. Some of Their fathers started to come around less, some only payed the bills and weren't around at all, some only payed child support, and only a few fathers managed to nicely balance between the two. Even those fathers who balanced the 2 fams nicely weren't involved as much as they used to. In all of these stories, their fathers suddenly demanded them to send money for his entire 2nd fam when they got older. Many of them don't know what to do about it

 

[ZBR]

The price to pay to become Landheere

 

[JackieBurkhart]

Ain't my kids, ain't my problem.

 

[diatiamia]

Let say you're born and raised in the west. Your father takes off and gets married to another wife in Somalia, and has children. Your mother finds out. They divorce or if she stays the relationship becomes cold. Now that you're older, He demands you to send money every month for him, his other wife and kids (your half siblings). Your half siblings are children. Are you gonna send money? If you do send money, are you gonna send enough just for your father every month to complete your filial duties? or are you gonna send money enough for the entire family every month?

I would disown any man who demanded money from me

 

[KillStreakIsCool]

Islamically speaking you and your assets belong to your father.
But I don't have to worry about this scenario

What if the Father invested zero in his children? I assume Islam being logical there are conditions to the statement you made. There is no unconditional devotion in Islam. Unless I can be proven wrong.

Some fathers deserve zero respect.

 

[KillStreakIsCool]

The problem about me is that I’m very kind person
Let’s say my father had second wife and childrens
I would be giving the money because I care for that women and her children not because of my father

Then this would be charity for you plus the strengthening of blood ties through your kindness.

 

[KillStreakIsCool]

Personally, if he has a good reason to marry and he was decent, didn't fail mother in delivering for her as much as he could, then I would support him with what I can when I can. The key for me is: GOOD JUSITIFICATION with prior good record as a father. If he took welfare, never worked, was unskilled, even with good fatherly record, I would NOT be happy with helping him.

 

[DubatDiaries]

Now that you're older, He demands you to send money every month for him, his other wife and kids (your half siblings). Your half siblings are children. Are you gonna send money?

If he was nice about it..gladly
If he was demanding lacag every month while sitting on his ass, I’d send it, but I would lose respect for him. Shameful behaviour. If you can have kids… you can work.
he’s still my dad I’m going to look out for him, even through the L’s

 

[Backardee123]

Technically speaking those are your siblings if they’re wearing dirty clothes and look messed up they will just say that’s @Yaraye’s little sitter or little brother. So make sure you take care of those babies real good. They have nothing to do with your mom’s beef your dad or you being mad about him marrying another wife. Only thing that’s certain and they’re certain is you’re their sister and whatever happens to them will come to haunt you and your other older siblings in the west.
msot young guys and gals tend to be sympathetic to their moms galant their dad but once they’re grown enough land matured they get a unchecked of heart. I know some who hated their dad’s side until they were ready for marriage and real life scenarios.

The only person with sense and compassion in this thread, imagine the heartbreak of knowing you have a literal sibling balling abroad who could spare a 100 dollar bill to have you fed and housed. We are all gonna die. This greed, vendetta against your dad, sympathy for mom isn't gonna help those kids. Damn people are brutal!!

 

[Basra]

Let say you're born and raised in the west. Your father takes off and gets married to another wife in Somalia, and has children. Your mother finds out. They divorce or if she stays the relationship becomes cold. Now that you're older, He demands you to send money every month for him, his other wife and kids (your half siblings). Your half siblings are children. Are you gonna send money? If you do send money, are you gonna send enough just for your father every month to complete your filial duties? or are you gonna send money enough for the entire family every month?

You dad is more landheer than u. Does he know his boy is gay?