Are you willing to send money to your father, his 2nd wife, and her kids in Somalia?

[Odious Delirium]

Remittance to somalia is a multi billion dollar industry. Yearly billions get sent back. Imagine the people back home saved it and invested with it.

 

[Gojo Satoru]

Unless it was an emergency I wouldn't send money.

 

[Sophisticate]

My father is a staunched monogamist so Alx I don't have to deal with this scenario.

To answer your question. Imagine marrying a second time and being incapable of taking care of your new family that you depend on your daughter (from a previous marriage) financially. That is embarassing. It's an attack on your manhood. You would question where is the natural inclination to provide? Which I assume is something most men wish to do. Only an infantilized one would not care.
Also, kids are loyal to their mothers and would not send a penny if she disagrees.

 

[whitehartlane]

As a son, my father has a right and my mother has a right and both are guaranteed to receive this right from me!

There is no politics in family.

 

[Bowda-dheer]

Technically speaking those are your siblings if they’re wearing dirty clothes and look messed up they will just say that’s @Yaraye’s little sitter or little brother. So make sure you take care of those babies real good. They have nothing to do with your mom’s beef your dad or you being mad about him marrying another wife. Only thing that’s certain and they’re certain is you’re their sister and whatever happens to them will come to haunt you and your other older siblings in the west.
msot young guys and gals tend to be sympathetic to their moms galant their dad but once they’re grown enough land matured they get a unchecked of heart. I know some who hated their dad’s side until they were ready for marriage and real life scenarios.

 

[Aurelian]

Islamically speaking you and your assets belong to your father.
But I don't have to worry about this scenario

Sources?

 

[__08]

Let say you're born and raised in the west. Your father takes off and gets married to another wife in Somalia, and has children. Your mother finds out. They divorce or if she stays the relationship becomes cold. Now that you're older, He demands you to send money every month for him, his other wife and kids (your half siblings). Your half siblings are children. Are you gonna send money? If you do send money, are you gonna send enough just for your father every month to complete your filial duties? or are you gonna send money enough for the entire family every month?

I’m blocking his number Lmaoo. Nigga you getting nothing from me.

 

[JigjigaKismaayo]

What do you mean her kids? They are your fucking siblings! what the f*ck happened to these dayuuspora children? You guys are lost hope walle.

If I am capable, I am not letting my brothers/sisters sleep hungry because my dad messed up. You guys are really stupid and diinless walle. ilaahay idin halaag.

 

[GemState]

"Her kids" kulaha,

 

[Sup]

Let say you're born and raised in the west. Your father takes off and gets married to another wife in Somalia, and has children. Your mother finds out. They divorce or if she stays the relationship becomes cold. Now that you're older, He demands you to send money every month for him, his other wife and kids (your half siblings). Your half siblings are children. Are you gonna send money? If you do send money, are you gonna send enough just for your father every month to complete your filial duties? or are you gonna send money enough for the entire family every month?

If I wasn’t raised by my father, I wouldn’t send a dime. If I was, then occasionally I’ll send some cash. If you’re in this predicament, if it causes you financial distress don’t do it. You have obligations to yourself and your immediate family first.

 

[NordicSomali]

No

 

[Odious Delirium]

Sources?

reported by Ibn Maajah (may Allah have mercy on him) in his Sunan from Jaabir ibn Abd-Allaah, who said that a man said, O Messenger of Allaah, I have wealth and children, and my father wants to take all my wealth [to spend it on his own needs] and leave nothing. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: You and your wealth belong to your father.

(In al-Zawaaid it says: its isnaad is saheeh and its men are thiqaat according to the conditions of al-Bukhaari).
Imaam Abd al-Razzaaq (may Allaah have mercy on him) said in al-Musannaf:

Concerning a man who takes his sons wealth

Aaishah said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: The best of what a man consumes is what he earns, and his children are part of his earnings.

Aaishah said: A man can consume whatever he wishes of his son's wealth, but a son cannot consume anything of his fathers wealth without his permission.

Saeed ibn al-Musayyib, said: A man can take whatever he wants from his son's wealth, but a son should not take anything from his fathers wealth except with his consent.

From Ibn Jurayj, said: Ataa did not see anything wrong with a man taking whatever he wanted of his son's wealth, even if it was not a case of necessity.

 

[Odious Delirium]

@Aurelian A son should honour his father, but each man has more right to that which he himself owns.

 

[repo]

Let say you're born and raised in the west. Your father takes off and gets married to another wife in Somalia, and has children. Your mother finds out. They divorce or if she stays the relationship becomes cold. Now that you're older, He demands you to send money every month for him, his other wife and kids (your half siblings). Your half siblings are children. Are you gonna send money? If you do send money, are you gonna send enough just for your father every month to complete your filial duties? or are you gonna send money enough for the entire family every month?

You are a fantastic small girl with dreams. Shax shax.

 

[Periplus]

Bruh he must chewing mad khat if he thinks I’ll pick up the call let alone send him ps.

Do I look like UNICEF?

 

[thatdudebefat]

I guess it depends on the amount? I personally dont mind helping out the odeyy if its 100-500$ but my mother would prolly not like it so we'll need to find a middleground i guess

 

[Kalsoon]

Let say you're born and raised in the west. Your father takes off and gets married to another wife in Somalia, and has children. Your mother finds out. They divorce or if she stays the relationship becomes cold. Now that you're older, He demands you to send money every month for him, his other wife and kids (your half siblings). Your half siblings are children. Are you gonna send money? If you do send money, are you gonna send enough just for your father every month to complete your filial duties? or are you gonna send money enough for the entire family every month?

I can’t speak for people here but most younger people in my family born and raised in the west don’t have that sense of family duty in them. Who is to say if I was born here I would be any different.

This scenario is set up so that a vengeful person (someone really hurt) could take revenge on their dad for his past indiscretions towards his first family.

If I had the opportunity to see my father happy and alive with more children, I would gladly help him when he needed me.

 

[johnsepei5]

Let say you're born and raised in the west. Your father takes off and gets married to another wife in Somalia, and has children. Your mother finds out. They divorce or if she stays the relationship becomes cold. Now that you're older, He demands you to send money every month for him, his other wife and kids (your half siblings). Your half siblings are children. Are you gonna send money? If you do send money, are you gonna send enough just for your father every month to complete your filial duties? or are you gonna send money enough for the entire family every month?

Why doesnt your father have an income
Of his own,he did start a new family right so what was his plan just hope for the best

 

[johnsepei5]

I can’t speak for people here but most younger people in my family born and raised in the west don’t have that sense of family duty in them. Who is to say if I was born here I would be any different.

This scenario is set up so that a vengeful person (someone really hurt) could take revenge on their dad for his past indiscretions towards his first family.

If I had the opportunity to see my father happy and alive with more children, I would gladly help him when he needed me.

They have adopted western indivualism

 

[Angelina]

@Yaraye

In all seriousness, I can imagine you’re irritated and a bit hurt, but I’d use that opportunity to get more ajr from Allah. Just do it for the sake of Allah and you’ll be rewarded in the Dunya and Akhira.