Are you willing to send money to your father, his 2nd wife, and her kids in Somalia?

[Yaraye]

You can't have a subservient husband if you rely on him financially
Better start picking up 50 hour shifts

Some men dote on their wife even if they are the breadwinner

 

[mrlog]

Not in this context. If a woman is seeking that then thats the rule. Plus look at the incel filled low self esteem world we live in. Trust me it's gonna become more and more common. Men are already in purely transactional fan worship like relationships

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[mrlog]

Some men dote on their wife even if they are the breadwinner

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[Reply]

You can't have a subservient husband if you rely on him financially
Better start picking up 50 hour shifts

Subservient in a way where he lets you make all decisions but still be the breadwinner. Most somali households are like this.

 

[Odious Delirium]

Subservient in a way where he lets you make all decisions but still be the breadwinner. Most somali households are like this.

In what world

Most somali households are not like that at all

 

[Yaraye]

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a lot of somali men do that. I've seen it in all my 4 aunts marriages.

 

[Yaraye]

In what world

earth

 

[Odious Delirium]

earth

So what do most of you complain about then if we all come from female dominated and male provided households? Isn't the argument always that there are absent fathers who don't provide anything dictating what goes on???

 

[Reply]

In what world

Most somali households are not like that at all

I have seen it a lot. Both in relatives and my somali neighbors.

 

[Barni]

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[Dualke]

Some men dote on their wife even if they are the breadwinner

Subservient in a way where he lets you make all decisions but still be the breadwinner. Most somali households are like this.

That's compliance. Subservience indicates less authority which can only come from dependence

 

[Yaraye]

So what do most of you complain about then if we all come from female dominated and male provided households? Isn't the argument always that there are absent fathers who don't provide anything dictating what goes on???

I thought you could read between the lines. Most of the household that 2 parent household are like this

 

[Yaraye]

That's compliance. Subservience indicates less authority which can only come from dependence

If that's what it is, then that's fine too

 

[Odious Delirium]

That's compliance. Subservience indicates less authority which can only come from dependence

Exactly

 

[Odious Delirium]

I thought you could read between the lines. Most of the household that 2 parent household are like this

That's not subservient tho...

 

[Yaraye]

That's not subservient tho...

yeah, @Dualke cleared that up

 

[whitevan]

Yes .. right or wrong thats my pops what ever he does while he’s on this earth i got his back

 

[Qeelbax]

How did I misrepresented the hadith in the context of the question presented and the answer I gave

The dad is back in somalia asking for money. what does claiming houses and bankruptcy got anything to do with anything I said???

I'm talking in the context of a sum of money he's asking for to be sent to him

It’s not his needs but his new kids and wife. Children are not required to care for their dads irresponsibilities.

 

[Qeelbax]

Quite clearly this thread got bamboozled by females who aint the one with responsibility to send money back home. As a man not only would i help my half sibblings out but id even help my wifes family if they need financial help. That is Somali dhaqan, if u guys planning to live in the west your whole life no worries but who would welcome you back home when ur parents are gone and u never bothered to help anyone?

Please walk into a dhabashil and see how many women send money back home. Women send back home just as much money, don’t lie.

 

[Qeelbax]

That’s not in ur power, tomorow if the white man tells you pack it up you got no choice but if that’s your plan good luck in the future.

Is ur father in the picture?

It’s not about greedy its literally not a womens job if she has a (husband) then it falls on him. That’s why most women in the west aint asked for qaraan. What i mean however is typically if there is a two parent household the responsibility falls on the father to take care of his wifes family back home.

It’s cute that you think Somalis suddenly follow or care for gender rules when it comes to women working and providing for their family.