What is your opinion on the Tea App?

Homerlilian2.0 said:

What the hell does that mean
Man no offence but females on here and men have some of the most retarded takes when it comes to this gender war bull crap .

Click to expand...

You’re slow if you don’t know what that means.

I don’t agree with the tea app but the response from “men” being “let’s create one where we expose women ” is feminine. Why are you gossiping as a man? Go and do something productive.

trf said:

Men used to go to war

Click to expand...

And women stayed in the kitchen and wouldn’t dare talk back to men. Now look at you talking back to me

dhaxabaay said:

Spoiler

You don't have permission to view the spoiler content. Log in or register now.

Click to expand...

It’s a pic only app, no?? How can one upload a revenge corn??

Medeea said:

And women stayed in the kitchen and wouldn’t dare talk back to men. Now look at you talking back to me

It’s a pic only app, no?? How can one upload a revenge corn??

Click to expand...

The alchemist said:

I don't think people who join gossip sites care about the truth. They seek evil, it's part of who they are, and they love to ruminate, spread, and engage with drama culture in an irresponsible capacity, spreading information they can't confirm on the internet, as no one will hold them accountable.

Click to expand...

How much of it is them just following the bandwagon and fomo? I want to believe most people have the capacity for good and evil as we know the type of nufus/souls there are. It's just easier to do the wrong thing than it's to do the right thing maalmahan.

Unfortunately there could be real stories mixed in with the (possibly) fabricated ones that people will dismiss due to the lack of evidences being presented. And how unserious people are being with it. The level of immaturity presented on there is quite revealing.

The alchemist said:

When one lives a life one is not proud of, one loves to bring others down. You want to taint the image of the nice smile of others, and obsess about their cracks. They want to bring everyone down, not elevate themselves.

Click to expand...

Insecurity is always loud. But they may also just be hurt the person who messed up their life is able to continue on without any consequences. There are seriously people who do people so wrong but try to maintain a clean reputation. We shouldn't dismiss or accept info too quickly. It's on the accuser to being forth evidences. What I find odd is how people speak on behalf of others when they may not know all dimensions of that person. Humans can be very duplicitous. I don't encourage being doubtful of other Muslims but it's scary to speak on a person's character if you're not around them at all times.

May Allah guide those who are harming others both men and women. Justice is with Allah.

Kalsoon said:

How much of it is them just following the bandwagon and fomo? I want to believe most people have the capacity for good and evil as we know the type of nufus/souls there are. It's just easier to do the wrong thing than it's to do the right thing maalmahan.

Unfortunately there could be real stories mixed in with the (possibly) fabricated ones that people will dismiss due to the lack of evidences being presented. And how unserious people are being with it. The level of immaturity presented on there is quite revealing.



Insecurity is always loud. But they may also just be hurt the person who messed up their life is able to continue on without any consequences. There are seriously people who do people so wrong but try to maintain a clean reputation. We shouldn't dismiss or accept info too quickly. It's on the accuser to being forth evidences. What I find odd is how people speak on behalf of others when they may not know all dimensions of that person. Humans can be very duplicitous. I don't encourage being doubtful of other Muslims but it's scary to speak on a person's character if you're not around them at all times.

May Allah guide those who are harming others both men and women. Justice is with Allah.

Click to expand...

I don't think there is a fear of missing out. I think there surely is a tendency for people to engage in gossip with others in weak moments. But there are genuinely broken people out there who want to see other people's lives get broken. Many of these people could have been sexually abused when younger and now irrationally cannot see men in an objective manner, so when rumors spread, their trauma is linked to that, and many of these women are very much active online.

This is the equivalent of the masses in Europe in the medieval age cheering, shouting, throwing things at random people who were caught doing bad or were accused by the elites to get hanged, and the citizens, indiscriminately and uncritically, were happy to see it. Those masses have accumulated pain through living precarious lives so as to get a release, they in a psychosocial mob manner, go through a ritualistic punishment to moral scapegoat, concentrating their contempt and hate into that one person.

But there is a worse reality: many of the gossip people are just genuinely terrible aggregated individuals who were neither abused nor treated badly growing up, but lack a moral conscience in their perpetuating, potentially destroying someone's lives without having the truth in their hands. Remember, the truth is not important to them.

I recently saw a random Twitter post that had tens of thousands of retweets by this deranged woman who said one of her wishes this year was to see Jonny Depp dead. Some women are just wicked, nothing more to it. That guy was vindicated, and it turned out the woman was crazy and evil. Rumors go around that Disney is desperately wanting him to come back to the next Pirates of the Caribbean movie after he was blackballed from the industry. And they still wanted the worst for him. That is devil activities, nothing less.

You're underestimating the level of psychotic people on the internet and why they should never have free rein on anything.

Have you not seen how many of these dweebs suddenly post doomsday memes on the internet when conflict tension heightens? The internet aggregates bad culture, and terrible people gather in one place, which has an effect on people who are somewhat normal but have bad tendencies.

You have idiots now thinking they are informed or doing analysis by posting unintelligent, cynical memes about wars. If the world went under, best believe there will be sick people posting memes about it. That dystopian disposition is dangerous itself.

Many sides of the internet attract bad people and normalize behavior that is not typical, since purposeless actors drive up activities to scale influence, making it look normal to the kids. You probably will meet only a few sociopaths a year in real life since they're spread out, but you can go to an echo-chamber where 30-50% of a sub-culture has mental issues, and bad people tend to seek bad things.

I have seen a woman who was generally normal suddenly want to ruin a guy's reputation when he simply rejected her and went out with another woman. His crime, according to her, was to flirt with her and then move on. When I saw that spiteful energy, I distanced myself from her, despite us having a lot in common. I especially got a red flag when she compared me to a man she dated, but ended in a vague manner. She was also the type to love how I made her feel around me, not really interested in me otherwise. Like she was a a crackhead and saw me as crack. If I did not give her that stimulation that she could indulge in, she would be very unenthused. Those types are flighty because they view relationships from a very self-centered way. I never confused her need for validation and attention with actual interest. If I were unwise and let her build emotions for me by building on that -- if that relationship had ended for any reason -- she'd try to mess my life up by going for my reputation.

I digressed into a personal story, but that example ties in with the broader point since it's the everyday women like that that co-sign the wicked ones' narratives. So if a select few say a guy is bad, then everybody agrees, and then they indulge in contempt-filled rants, and now they all update their minds retrospectively, only recalling bad things, not even questioning whether the stories told are true or not.

As far as where the social media gossip activities go, a lot of it reflects their dysfunction rather than justification (most of these people are not reasonable, rational actors (a small minority) - they're at best emotionally biased, and worst, devils). When hundreds of millions have access to the internet, the psychotic wicked ones come in similar channels, and then you have the compounding effect. A lot of times, the guy could have done badly, but to these women, it's about punishing any man; the truth does not matter. Any man has to suffer. This also comes in the form of generalized male hate, which comes from prior personal dysfunction or, frankly, just an anti-social personality trait of being a terrible human that loves to hate.

We never talk about this, but there is this growing sentiment among the most privileged women in the world, the Western woman, that, as they were taught by this liberal historical lens of male oppression of women to be almost something perpetual and primordial, the women should have wiggleroom to sometimes do bad to men without consequences. You often hear women ironically say, "I support women's wrongs" - although said in a joking manner, it actually plays out like that sometimes. That is why those devils saw this ex of Johnny Depp do wrong things, but they supported it and wanted the guy to suffer when he was exonerated in the public scene. They saw her wicked activities as justified because men deserve it, regardless. They vicariously relished her activities they know are bad, as getting back at the "man".

I won't go deeper into this, but yeah, I don't see social media suddenly becoming better. People should learn to anchor themselves more in real life and try to be balanced on the internet and not be dragged into these faux self-justified slippery slopes. No one should follow the ones who try to spin things, and on the matter of trolls, they rarely have respectable lives.

The alchemist said:

I won't go deeper into this, but yeah, I don't see social media suddenly becoming better. People should learn to anchor themselves more in real life and try to be balanced on the internet and not be dragged into these faux self-justified slippery slopes. No one should follow the ones who try to spin things, and on the matter of trolls, they rarely have respectable lives.

Click to expand...

Most of the people you mentioned aren't/weren't Muslim. They have a different lense with which they look at this life. Sadly Muslims are strongly influenced when they start to stray away from Islamic teachings. Especially when they experience trauma or a negative experience with the other gender. Easy for a person in a vulnerable state like that to fall for the online content which gives them the easiest explanation: the other gender is all bad and they only drain you. Hard for a person in a state like that to think clearly.

Inshallah those posted and the posters reflect on their own actions, make tawbah to Allah and strive to live upright lives. Unfortunately some need to grow up emotionally before speaking with someone cause that's a huge reason for things like this. What a big difference people treating each other better before and during marriage would make to the society. It can be quite healing for those who didn't receive healthy love or see it around them. Marriage is a protection from many ills in society.

This app should make people think of the type of people they get to know for marriage. People tell us who they are and what they believe like the women you mentioned. Most of us aren't as aware and dont believe a person who is interested could do that to them. People mostly do what's in their nature.

Even letting someone down has to be done in the most sensitive way so as to not hurt them and have a person holding a grudge against you out there. Kindness to them now can mean peace for you later.

I’m actually completely surprised tea app is even allowed to exist. It may be mostly for a good cause but gossiping about others without their permission or acknowledgment is not right.

Maybe that’s why it’s mostly US thing.