How to get over someone

time heals all wounds

lalayariis said:

I had a crush on this dude for 3 years, and only seriously the past year and I just found out he has a girl now. He was the sweetest boy ever, and would always appreciate me but I guess he didn’t like me like that which is life. Lowkey genuinely thought he might have liked me though, he sent to many signals but maybe I overthought it. What do you guys do when you want to forget someone, but you will still have to see them regularly?

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If a man choses another woman its a wrap. If you waste anymore minutes it will hinder you from moving on.
For what ever reason he didn't want you, find someone else that likes you. As much as the world preaches about love blah blah its not always what its made out to be. Don't be angry at him be happy him for him and live your life without doin things to outdo him like a lot woman would this is how they get trapped in an unhappy marriages. Live your life according to your own terms. Never question your worth because of someone you just met.

Luciddreamer said:

time heals all wounds

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Not always.

lalayariis said:

Will do, thank you for the advice abaayo. I didn’t even know him that well, and put him on a pedestal and I need to realize that I shouldn’t be hungover someone in hopes that they’ll like me in the future. Also, I’m too prideful sadly to be a second choice hence why my plan is to just try to move on. If he really liked me, he would’ve made a move that was clear I’d like to think and I just don’t have time for games in my life anymore now that I’m an adult.

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Right. Move on. If he finds out you like him he can take advantage of you keep stringing you along or convince you to be his second wife or secret wife. its just a mess. You deserve so much better than a married man. Set up your goals things you want out of life. If you meet a nice guy go for it or focus on your self. taker care of yourself etc.most women are happier single anyway lol enjoy it while it lasts.

@lalayariis

He knew you both had some chemistry. Also, you should know that before most guys commit to one person, they are exploring a plethora of other options and unfortunately, for him, you didn’t make the cut. These kind of decisions we blokes make are funny if not tragic because speaking from a personal perspective, I thought that I had many things in common with this specific chick that I preferred over others and it turned out, I was wrong. Think of it that you two were never meant for each other and you are a great person who could attract similar and better guys. Be confident and in control of your emotions, let the brain make most of the decisions. Shut down the hormonal intelligentsia.

Good luck dear.

Busy&surround yourself with close friends/family and most importantly have tawakkul in Allah. Truly what’s meant for you will never miss you so give yourself some slack.

There are plenty of good looking well behaved, religious polite Somali men out there. With time, you'll slowly lose the feelings you have for him, especially when you meet someone else who makes your heart flutter

pray istikhara as well when you meet someone