Would you arrange your childs marriage?

Nah I don't want a Ayaan Hirsi Ali 2.0 on my hands.

No thanks. I’ve lived my life, I’ll let my children do the same. Remember your children didn’t ask to be born, you decided to have children, so it’s important to do right by them and not continue this cycle of Somali carnage.

Rationale said:

I will definetly arrange my future childrens marriage can't let anyone into the family.

What about you guys? Is this still normal among Somali families?

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No. They can choose who they want just like i did.
Too much hassle for me.

Nah. I'd only disapprove if the guy or girl is bad for my son or daughter. If everything is good, I'mma let them be.

Knowles said:

No thanks. I’ve lived my life, I’ll let my children do the same. Remember your children didn’t ask to be born, you decided to have children, so it’s important to do right by them and not continue this cycle of Somali carnage.

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Hehehehe, carnage.

You know what, maybe I would. Humans are happier with the inherent lack of choice or limited pool. Sad but true

Choice is a fundamental right and, even if they are your child, when they marry they are an adult and have the right to choose.

I understand the idea behind arranging a marriage, the couple would be from the same religion, culture, nationality, socio-economic background, and both families would be keen on the marriage. If the couple meet and taking a liking to each other, isn’t that the ideal relationship? Obviously though, if they don’t like each other the potential marriage shouldn’t go through.

A mix of both arrangements and personal choice is ideal IMO

I was sitting next to an Indian guy. We got into a light political debate. The discussion somehow shifted to morality, and then relationships. He told me he was arranged, and I asked him so what’s that like, thinking more along process, but he just said “not great” and stopped talking. I’m not sure I buy the love with time thing. There has to be something.

From a personal perspective, I was attempted to be set up numerous times. It was a “choose among” type thing. My folks thought along similar lines. Too young. It was so relentless, I even thought maybe I should give in and marry to divorce. I was that contemptuous of even the idea of it. Not to say, I didn’t have my fun with it. It didn’t stop before I’d fucked around with their heads. But then, they were pawns in their own way too.