I married an educated fob and we clashed like crazy. His culture was fully Somali and mine was fully British. It ended in divorce. In a couple of months I'm marrying a man born and bred in Europe who shares my values. We already love each other and unlike my ex we won't fight over things like FGM and having non Muslim friends.
I think Somali guys need to toughen up if they're marrying girls from back home because they're ignorant and submissive. Real men would want someone intelligent and powerful as a role model to their kids. I think the only time a woman needs to be submissive is if that's how she gets off in the bedroom.
So xalimos from back home are not intelligent and powerful?